AIBU to have called DH a lazy dick...

[allthegoodusersaretaken]

because he expects our 17yo to do everything!! Don't get me wrong, I'm not one of those people that thinks teenagers shouldn't have to lift a finger, but DH worked for 4.5 hours today (from home). DD (17) on the other hand, did 3 hours in college, came home for an hour, and has now gone out to work an 8 hour shift. DH expected her to use the hour she had at home doing the washing up "and a quick hoover when you get a chance". AIBU to have told him he's a lazy dick for asking her to do it when he's had basically all day to do it himself? He's now refusing to talk to me because I won't teach DD to be independent

Tell him you don't have time to teach DD to be independent as you're too busy teaching him. Lazy arse!

And tell him you want to teach her to refrain from being a lazy man's scullery maid.

Can't you get your point across without calling names.

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@allthegoodusersaretaken

YANBU he IS lazy git!! Fancy asking her to do it, when he's done so little!! Twat.

you need a serious conversation about the way he treats your DD (& probably you!) & about pulling his weight, not issuing orders!!

This x 100.

YABU because you talked to him in insulting and belittling manner. I do agree with your point that he should have let DD a have her 1 hour break to herself. However, your DH is more likely to come on board and change his ways if you speak to him in a respectful manner.

My dad used to pull this shit when I was a teenager. I was working 12 hour shifts in a care home through the summer after my GCSEs and expected to work my way through a long list of chores when I got home. He worked term
time only and was home all day.

Your dh is taking the piss.

Of course your 17 yr old is female, very much doubt he'd be demanding his 17 yr old son hoover before going to an 8hr shift. He is a sexist pig.

your DH is more likely to come on board and change his ways if you speak to him in a respectful manner.

Respect has to be earned, and this sorry excuse for a man hasn't earned it.

He’s a lazy dick. He needs to model a good example. He is not doing that.

Sounds like she is already well on her way to being independent- she’s studying and working.

Id have told him to wind it in as well.

It's not just lazy, it's pretty inconsiderate and selfish. To top it all he's now sulking!
What a baby.

Dunno about OP, but I find it next to impossible @thelastshadowpuppet, you wannabe School Prefect. HTH

Sound the trumpets, the Handmaidens have arrived!

It's pretty easy:

"Hey DH, leave DD alone. She has just come back from college and is about to go to work. She only has 1 hour hour to herself so needs this time to relax. Either you do the chores this afternoon or we'll discuss what to do about the chores"

Jesus Christ, what a bag of bollocks.

He is a lazy dick

YABU because although he is being a lazy dick, I dont agree with name calling in arguments. So lazy yes but I wouldnt accept being called a lazy bitch or a lazy twat or something, I think it takes away from the point you're trying to make and you just get someones back up and they just hear the name calling