To not attend MIL’s birthday

[4amKnitter]

MIL wants to celebrate her birthday with a weekend away with the family. She turns 70 on the first anniversary of my mother’s death. DH has said we won’t go away on the actual day and suggested a week or two after. Honestly, I just don’t think I can face it full stop. AIBU to tell him he needs to take the kids and go on his own?

Definitely not unreasonable. It was the first anniversary of my DM’s death a couple of weeks ago and that was hard enough. If I’d had to spend time with someone else’s mother on that day I would have been more upset. Have you mentioned staying behind to your DH?

Im sorry for your loss .

Thank you. I’m sorry you’re going though this too. It’s only DH’s parents, brother and DH plus partners and kids and I think he feels that not going will be interpreted poorly.