Catching a lift

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I work dayshift oh works nightshift.
I’m home for half 5 and do the dinner.
Every evening during the working week at 7.15pm I have to drop my partner at his pick up point he doesn’t drive. It’s a fifteen minute walk away.
Last night I was particularly tired and asked would his lift not collect him at the house to save me having to do this drop.
He is very angry at me says I am being horrible to him that it’s only 5 mins out my day and says he can’t ask to get picked up from the house as this would take the man he gets a lift with of his road. He has been going on and on.
When he comes in in the morning he has a can of beer, breakfast, relax, bed. I’ve tried to say there are some evenings when I would like to come in have the option of a glass of wine if I wanted, an unrushed dinner and get my jammies on but I can’t as I always have to go back out. He doesn’t understand this and says I’m being selfish.
Am I being selfish?

Does your son have to come on this trip too, or is he old enough to be left?

He can walk? Especially on a nice day!

This exactly....

Or tomorrow night, come in make tea and have glass of wine. Oops, you couldn't possibly drop him off after having a drink.

How does he get back from work in the morning?

A 5 minute drive for you is 10 mins as you have to come back, add on the time for getting out of the house and back and it’s possibly 15 minutes of your time to save him 10 mins. Why is his time more precious than yours?

I am this pedantic because I have family who say oh an hour on public transport is too far for us can you give us a lift? Erm no it will take me 50 minutes there and back. So I have become very good at calculating their time v my time and don’t feel selfish.

Extremely good point.

Thanks for your replies. He walked tonight as is still annoyed with me because I complained. He made a big fuss of looking out the window saying the rain was about to start (it’s not) said he wouldn’t trouble me for a lift. So that suits me. I think I have hurt his feelings 🙃

Nope I wouldn't do it if its only 15 min walk. And he needs to learn how to drive, I can't believe he thinks it okay for you to cart him to and from work like a little kid who can't drive. I would never impose on someone like that.

I wouldn't mind if there was a bit of give and take, but he sounds like an entitled prick.

He's got all his chauffeurs lined up hasn't he! Someone to drive him to car number 2. Car number 2 to drive him right to work.

It's the expectation that would piss me off and also his ungratefulness. Tell him to but a scooter. Lazy fucker.

I don’t think you are unreasonable to suggest that he walks 15 minutes. I do think you are a bit unreasonable to have suggested that the person who gives him a lift to work every day, with no hope of reciprocation, should make even the slightest amendment to their journey to accommodate him.

What would he do if he was single and lived alone? …. He’d bloody walk.

Non-drivers seem to think they’re entitled to lifts from their loved ones/families just because they have a car. It’s pure cheeky fuckery and laziness to expect to be chauffeured about.

Not to mention the price of fuel now. Lots of short journeys, it all adds up.

DH doesn't drive he only asks for lifts as a last resort when trains are cancelled. Never for a walk of less than an hour or a cycle ride of a similar time.

He needs to walk it everyday good exercise!

Just start your wine as soon as you get in and tell him you can't drive!!

More bothered by the fact you're coming in and cooking his dinner every night while he's sat on his lazy arse doing nothing!