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To want to just quit work

18 replies

ScotchBonnie · 14/06/2022 09:26

I’ve had enough of it, I’m so stressed out there is not really any career progression available and I just feel stuck

I'm a single parent, struggling to pay bills and every time I speak to my manager about holidays or days off it’s like I’m asking for the world, my ds is starting secondary school in September and I’ve given her a few days well I’m advance that I need to take off for school meetings and such and all she does is look at me like I’m speaking a different language.

Today though I feel is the final nail in the coffin, my ds has woken up with a swollen glands and high temp, I’ve messaged the other staff member to see if he can cover me (I always cover his days) and he’s refused, I have nobody at all to look after ds today and know if I don’t go into work she is going to be the only one there and if I go in tomorrow there will be such a bad atmosphere.

I really don’t know what else to do, if I go I’d have to leave ds on his own until at least 5pm

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chopc · 14/06/2022 09:31

Take emergency /carers or dependents leave and stay home with your son. Hopefully can get him seen by doc today . Staffing issues are not your concern unless you are a manager

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ScotchBonnie · 14/06/2022 09:40

chopc · 14/06/2022 09:31

Take emergency /carers or dependents leave and stay home with your son. Hopefully can get him seen by doc today . Staffing issues are not your concern unless you are a manager

I’m meant to be assistant manager, but you wouldn’t think so the way she acts.
so it kind of is my issue to sort out.

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user1471457751 · 14/06/2022 09:42

Does the other staff member always refuse your requests for cover? If so then you need to stop covering for him.

Forestgate · 14/06/2022 09:55

How old is dc?

maturestudent74 · 14/06/2022 09:59

You can't go in simple. This is not your problem but the owner or managers problem. sickness is sickness and there is nothing you can do about it.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 14/06/2022 10:01

Id stop covering for him if he refuses as a pp has said!

You just have to call in and say you can’t be there as you can’t.

Id be looking for another job though

SafferUpNorth · 14/06/2022 10:16

chopc · 14/06/2022 09:31

Take emergency /carers or dependents leave and stay home with your son. Hopefully can get him seen by doc today . Staffing issues are not your concern unless you are a manager

THIS.

You have the right to take leave to look after a poorly child. How it's covered is not your problem but your manager's.

Sounds like a crap employer. Time to look for another job. It's a job-seeker's market out there at the moment, so believe in yourself and get some applications out today while you're at home with your DC.

Good luck!

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ScotchBonnie · 14/06/2022 10:17

I’m definitely looking for a new job!

just spoken of my mum and luckily she has the day off today as she has an appointment herself, so is going to come in and look after ds for me.

I won’t be covering for anyone anymore, I’ve already had to drop some hours as it was becoming a joke.
pretty much all of last week I covered the other staff member as he was “sick” turns out he with with a friend and had too much to drink 😡

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BackToTheTop · 14/06/2022 10:27

You know what, if your manager and colleague are as bad as you say, just take the family care day and sod the atmosphere tomorrow. Next time your colleague asks you to cover, say no and don't be daunted by your bosses reaction to holiday requests - you're entitled to them! You can't change their reaction towards you, but you can change your behaviour towards them

Freerangechildren · 14/06/2022 10:43

They should be doing more, much more to help you op. Their staffing is their issue not yours. You sound responsible and helpful, and will be much missed when you leave for a better job with people that appreciate you.

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ScotchBonnie · 14/06/2022 11:26

I definitely do feel under appreciated and the thing that really gets to me, which I think is making me unhappy is that the job I applied for I’m not even doing without being micromanaged, by a woman who doesn’t know anything about the job I’m meant to do.

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SafferUpNorth · 14/06/2022 11:56

@ScotchBonnie Go on girl, go bag yourself a great new job where you're valued!! Good luck!!

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ScotchBonnie · 14/06/2022 12:15

Oh God I wish I could win the bloody lottery! Although I would have to be in it to win it.

I've come in today, my mum is now with ds and is going to take him to his doctors appointment at 2pm, when I get home this evening I’m going to sit down and update my cv and start applying for jobs as I don’t want to hand in my notice and not have a backup plan.

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Sloth66 · 14/06/2022 12:48

You sound determined and organised, hope you find a job asap where they appreciate you and are a bit more understanding.

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ScotchBonnie · 15/06/2022 11:45

Well guess who hasn’t turned up for work today?

And guess who has been asked to cover his shift?

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balalake · 15/06/2022 11:47

Time to look for another job.

averythinline · 15/06/2022 11:48

And guess who is going to say no..

Until you start being less flexible they will take you for a mug

Just say no ....no reasons/justification...just No can't cover today

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ScotchBonnie · 15/06/2022 11:55

averythinline · 15/06/2022 11:48

And guess who is going to say no..

Until you start being less flexible they will take you for a mug

Just say no ....no reasons/justification...just No can't cover today

Already said I can’t cover as I am working later tomorrow and covering Friday, which was agreed by me last week.

I refuse to do it anymore!

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