Annoying woman on maternity ward - destroy phone?

[strawberrymilk7]

AIBU to suggest to my sister she destroys the phone of a very annoying woman on her maternity ward?! (I am joking)

Poor Dsis is 31 weeks pregnant but will be in hospital until she delivers due to complications. They moved her room last night to a bigger room. She had been in a 2 bed.

One of the 'ladies' (lets call her witchy) in her new room has been playing loud music since 9am. Witchy then speak very loudly on speaker phone to people when she isn't listening to music. Dsis said she isn't speaking in English hence why she isn't bothered about being over heard and is talking loudly. I said it doesn't matter what language she is speaking, if she had any consideration for other people she would not do those things!

Dsis spoke to the lady in the bed next to her who said witchy has been there since Thursday and she hasn't slept because of witchy making noise, opening windows and curtains, and making a lot of noise eating smell food at 1 am!

Dsis has said to the nurse who has asked witchy to use headphones. She used them for a while then took a call on speaker, and put the music back on after the call.

I think that phone needs to find a sticky end when witchy goes to the loo next!!!

Get her moved immediately. I would stand at the nurse's station until it was done, and make them confiscate her phone every time she refuses to use earphones. Entitled madam. I think I would kill her.

Tell dsis to Google shut the fuck up in several languages and try them all...

😂😂😂

@Littlebirdyouaresosweet 😂I love it!!!

Just got a text there now, apparently she has turned the music down, she dsis is being kinder than me she said maybe she thinks that is what the nurse asked her to do. I said I don't think so! Other sis is a nurse she said complain about the stress to her consultant or write a letter (can't remember who she said to) and something will have to be done. TBH dsis should not be under stress this baby needs to stay inside for a few more weeks at least.

Yanbu, I never understand why nurses don't intervene and put an end to this. Your poor sis. Some people are just pig ignorant.

She needs to request a single room. Ask every shift change, at every ward round, email PALS, everything.
She can’t be expected to spend the next month or longer on a shared ward.
I had placenta praevia, as did a friend. For short stays after a bleed it is normal to be on a shared antenatal ward but if being admitted long term it is normal to be allocated a room for the duration. It may take a few days as one will need to come free but it should happen.

There was a post exactly like this a few weeks ago. Wonder if this is commonplace? Unbelievably inconsiderate behaviour.

Dsis needs to ask to speak to a senior nurse, reiterate that the excessive phone use is a nuisance to all patients, disturbing rest etc. and ask to have her complaint

A) formally recorded in the ward day report so other shifts will all be aware
B) the senior staff's solution to the problem be also recorded in the ward day report for subsequent shifts to be aware of and make sure it's done.

I'm going to sound really old here but People seem to have lost all sense of respect for others.
A lady on the bus at the weekend was listening loudly to her music with no headphones, likewise the week before some teens were sharing music with each other on the bus.

She needs to complain to a midwife every. single. time.

The squeaky wheel gets the oil unfortunately.

I’d leisurely suggest that a PALS complaint might be appropriate if ward staff aren’t able to ensure an environment where patients can rest effectively.

Your poor sister- I really feel for her. Some people just have no considerations for others.

I cannot tolerate this stuff in normal day-to-day life so god only knows how your sister is coping in this stressful situation. It is unbelievably rude and inconsiderate. I hope she gets some peace soon and yes destroy the phone

The midwives (not nurses!) should be dealing with this. If she isn't getting anywhere then she needs to speak to the antenatal ward manager.

Ridiculous!

Your poor DSIS @strawberrymilk7 . I was admitted a while ago and had this exact situation except (and I kid you not) the woman was in early labour!!! So on top of loudly FaceTiming their friends and shouting away in French I also had to put up with her moaning and crying in between then the early labour continued all night with lights on full. It was like torture and very nearly gave me a panic attack. I complained to a nurse in tears as I was in for high blood pressure (!!!) and she said there was no delivery suite free. Thank god she then left early next morning but it was horrendous.

I would be complaining constantly. The weather is supposed to be getting up to 30 degrees towards the weekend, which will just add to the misery. I agree with a PP, shared wards are fine for short stays but for the length of time she will be in she needs to be able to rest and sleep.

@Bickles she had a massive bleed and lives too far from the hospital so they won't let her home. I'll say it to her to push for a private room

She will have to keep on at the nurses/ mw I know she doesn't want to bother them. As much as we all know they are very busy if you don't keep on at them they will forget about you. Same in many lines of work. If something awkward/ undesirable can be avoided people will avoid it.

Not sure if it is the same in the UK but she needs to ask to speak with the Ward Manager, Maternity Unit Manager and demand that something is done.

How many people on the ward?

Hahahahahahahahahhaa

I don't know why but it seems to be some strange phenomenon that EVERY maternity ward has one of these women! Maybe they're just planted there by the hospital to test our patience for motherhood🤔

I'm sorry your sister is going through this and I understand the annoyance, however, the casual racism/xenophobia in your OP is out of order.

@Chikapu Agreed.

'Witchy'? Really? YABU for using this as a nickname, it smacks of misogyny and othering, especially as the woman isn't a native English speaker.

This is the same no matter what ward you’re on. I’ve just spent two weeks being bounced from ward to ward and there was a snorer, a gossip and a loud one in every single room. It was awful.

I’d suggest getting your sister some good ear plus, a sleep mask and asking the midwives to be moved at every opportunity. Chances are with bed shortages she’s going to have to be in a room with other people at some point over the next 6-8 weeks. She needs all the tools she can to get through it. W

Agreed! My maternity ward did 😩 thankfully a few hours after I’d got on the ward, it seemed to empty and I was the only one there for most of the night! Can’t say I slept any better keeping one eye open on my newborn 😂

I get where you're coming from, but the op's point is that speaking a foreign language (to English) would give someone the freedom to speak without the complication of being overheard and talk loudly. But surely there must surely be a word for "inconsiderate" in every language.