To be so confused

[Katypop]

I am looking for advice as I am so confused. I am currently seeing somebody but we both previously agreed it would be for sex and that the only times we would meet up is if we both wanted sex. We arranged to meet up last night and he came over to mine.

There was so sex and instead we cuddled on the sofa for two hours and had a really deep conversation and spoke about everything. He kept kissing my forehead too and stroking my hand. We both nearly fell asleep together.

I’m confused about how he sees us and wondered wether I should speak to him about it or am I reading into this too much?

Also, it came up in the conversation that he has told his teenage son about me.

It doesnt sound like its just sex for either of you, sounds like you had a lovely night getting to know each other. Might be worth a chat though so no-one gets hurt.

Question - would you be happy if the relationship shifted into a more traditional "romance" based relationship? There is NOTHING wrong with the relationship you outlined initially (FWB) if you are happy with it, but the description there at the end seems more romantic?

Once you answer the above, it then becomes a need to talk with the other person... If you do not want it to change then you need to make clear to the other person this is how it needs to be - it is only fair to them. Conversely, if you see the dynamics changing to a more romantic involvement, then they need to have a chance to say what they want.... if you just make assumptions on what the relationship has changed to, you can't complain if the other person ends up with a "Say what??! I never said that!!" response 6 months down the line!

What ever happens - really hope it goes the way you want it to!!

Some guys like relationship benefits from a FWB situation (cuddles, kisses etc) but don’t want the commitment.

You need to be open and honest with him about what you want.