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Au pairs post brexit

57 replies

Forestgate · 13/06/2022 11:00

Government don't seem to care about affordable childcare and working mums.

Have a decent job but probably need to resign as can't get an au pair for school holidays and wrap around- I work shifts and no family.

Wrote to my mp (labour) who basically told me to go away

So demoralising

OP posts:
TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 29/01/2023 20:44

A large number of British voters do not want immigrants of any kind coming to the UK. The Tories have been trading on this for the past decade and have made policy accordingly.
I don't know what you expect your Labour MP to do about it - their party are not in government.

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 29/01/2023 20:48

InChocolateWeTrust · 13/06/2022 16:26

An au pair isn't childcare and isnt suitable for sole charge all day through school holidays for a 1 year old AND two older children!

It was supposed to be a program to allow young people to stay with families to learn english in exchange for light childcare - typically before and after school for older kids in the way an older teen might collect younger siblings from school. Not all day and not really for babies and toddlers.

It was and is a widely abused scheme with people treating au pairs like live in nannies.

Op you need either a proper childminder, or perhaps a combination of holiday clubs and a nursery.

The op has already explained that it is to provide wrap around care around the holiday clubs/school.

Ruffpuff · 29/01/2023 20:53

@InChocolateWeTrust They also get free accommodation and board. So really, they get more than £7 p/h.

Newmum738 · 29/01/2023 20:59

I agree with you OP. We looked for this year now DS is in reception but it's impossible thanks to Brexit. The options are to take someone from Canada or New Zealand but they have to have over £2k in the bank, in which case, why would they want to do it? Or you could find one that already has the right to remain but they are in high demand and so expensive. The Government doesn't care about women.

viktoria · 29/01/2023 21:18

Wow! There is a lot of hate against the au pair set up on here.
In the 1980s I was an au pair in the UK (I'm originally from Italy) and the USA. I loved it. It was an easy way to live in a foreign country, do a few hours of child care, attend a language school for a few hours a week, meet other young people from all over the world and live within a family set up and get a great insight into life in the UK/USA.
When I had children, we had (mainly Italian) au pairs as well.

Since Brexit I often thought "thank God, my children are old enough so we don't need au pairs anymore"
I work Freelance and having au pairs was a brilliant way to have flexible and affordable help with the added benefit of being able to connect with my Italian roots, and get my daughters to have connections to Italy aside from my family there.
I think without au pairs I couldn't have stayed working.
OP I fully understand your situation. It's rubbish

CaptainMerica · 29/01/2023 21:20

Yep, agree with PP - the government doesn't care about women. They would rather give tax breaks to drag men out of retirement than address the childcare issues that are preventing many experienced, educated women from working the hours they want.

Chamomiltea · 29/01/2023 21:34

Try Ireland? The common travel area is not affected by brexit. ‘Irish and UK citizens have the right to live, travel, work and study within the Common Travel Area. The rights of Irish citizens have been recognised in the UK’s Immigration and Social Security (EU Withdrawal) Act 2020’

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