For context I have 3DC, eldest is overweight and has autism,
I'm not a health freak but I am getting concerned about the number of treats being offered to my children. My in laws are lovely but a big part of their love language is sweet treats. I would understand a packet of sweets being offered but if we spend any amount of time with them it's a continuous flow of refined sugar. For example If my daughter is there for a sleepover (very rarely) they will be given milkshake and cookies in bed, sweet cereal in the morning (with marshmallows), sweets during the day, cakey/sweetie puddings with meals. We were there a couple of weeks ago for a few hours and my child was given two ice creams, and then pudding which was fruit and cream so I was happy about she came out with a bowl which was covered in sweets in with the fruit and the cream! Understandably this makes for very grumpy kids...
So AIBU to set better boundaries around this?
Does anyone take the approach of one sweets day a week? I think I read before that this was a thing in Switzerland. I don't want to make anyone upset but I just think it's actually a bit unkind levels to the kids now, like it's a level of excess that is unhealthy and doesn't make them happy.
If I'm not BU how can I set it in a way that doesn't seem unkind or critical towards my in laws?