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About 10 minutes ago my neighbour (semi detached) rang the bell and asked me to keep the music down. The TV is on the adjoining wall. It was fairly loud (12);but I didn't think loud enough for them to hear as strong thick walls.

It's my first weekend where the kids are away since separating from my husband and I had the music louder than usual.

I'm wondering if i should buy them some flowers tomorrow and knock on to apologise for the noise. I didn't think it was that loud but clearly loud enough to wake them up/annoy them.

Stop overthinking it.

Given the amount of awful stories we hear about noisy neighbours it's refreshing to hear one from the other side, but also from someone so thoughtful.

If you didn't think it was that loud then it's fair enough and you clearly through about it as you didn't consider it excessive. If you have good relations with your neighbour you could always just knock in the morning and re-apologise if you think tonight's interaction was a bit confrontational?

I'd knock and say sorry again and that I didn't realise it was that loud.

Flowers are a lovely thought but overkill I think.

Yes, buy them a bunch of flower and apologise in person tomorrow.

You will then be referred to as ‘that lovely lady next door’, instead of ‘noisy cow neighbour who plays her music too loudly’ when they talk about you to their friends and other neighbours.

I would go around and apologize but then still carry on playing my music how you like. Unless it's the middle of the night or on all day at full blast. The odd occasion of loud music is allowed.

When my DD was a teen and at home on her own, she upset our neighbours by playing her music much too loud. They collared me as I arrived home from work to complain, so I told them I'd have a word with her, and then we agreed that we'd put the music on, and when it got to the point where it became annoying, they should knock on the wall to let us know. Once we'd done this, we marked the level on the sound system, so that she knew she wasn't to go above that or she'd be in trouble, and thankfully it worked. Sometimes, like with the OP, it's just a case of not realising how loud the noise is in a neighbours property. Perhaps it would be worth doing this when you speak to them OP, then if you keep it to the level you agree between you, you shouldn't have any further problems. I wouldn't bother with the flowers though, but that's just me.

It was the middle of the night

I think the best thing you can do is keep the volume down in future. There is probably no need for anything else unless it was a tense encounter and you want to clear the air.

Just apologise in person. Flowers are a bit much. And yes loud music at midnight was thoughtless.

And if you do want a loud music session on your own in the middle of the night - headphones

Can you move your TV to a different wall

I would apologise, feuding with a neighbour can turn bitter and awkward

Music playing via the TV in the living room at level 12 can't have been that loud. It's Saturday night and you've already apologised, leave it there.

Who said anything about what volume level it was? It was on an adjoining wall, it was midnight and it was loud enough for the neighbours to get up, get dressed and come round to speak to OP. So yes it was too loud.

Yes I would consider this. Maybe check with them whether it was the final straw or whether they rarely notice it but did because it was late at night. If it is on a chimney breast then possibly the noise is amplified as it goes up.

It does of course vary by TVs as well as to how loud it actually was. Our old TV you could barely hear below 30 whereas the current one is shouting on 12.

My TV is on 75. Possibly a different scale lol.

@Aprilx try reading the OP