I don't think I'm bring unreasonable, but I guess I would like to gauge some outside perspectives...
I have 50/50 custody of my children, my ex took me to court and it was a long, drawn out, distressing process. It's been in place for around 5 years now.
The children are now 12 and 13 and no longer want to continue with 50/50, they want to live with me for the majority of the time now. Obviously, that's wonderful for me, but there are benefits to this also as their school and friends are where I live. Ex lives in the next town.
I personally think the children are of an age now where they should have their wishes listened to and respected. They are not comfortable telling their dad how they feel because he makes them feel bad/guilty and basically they end up giving in to his wants for an easy life.
AIBU in thinking that I need to try and get this altered now? Are the children's opinions as valid as I personally think they are?
I will obviously try talking to ex, but I already know that he will not be reasonable and he will not even consider agreeing to this change. It will result in a return to court and more loss of money that I do not have to begin with but they are really unhappy. I feel at a bit of a loss