To think he’s gone off me now

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Yesterday evening I bumped into the man I am seeing. My hair was a mess and I just had chucked any old outfit on to go to the supermarket. Since then he hasn’t text me and I’m worrying it’s put him off. I realise that sounds ridiculous but I’m prone to over thinking and criticising myself. Aibu?

How often does he usually text you? It was only yesterday.
If it has 'put him off' then he's very shallow and not worth bothering with

Does he normally contact you that often?

If all he's bothered about is how you look is he worth bothering about?

Please try not to criticise yourself, it does you no good

Thank you both. He’s only seen me in makeup and hair done and dressed up when out so this was the first time he’s seen me without. I think I’m probably over reacting but I do worry about everything!

I think you’re probably overreacting, but if it has put him off, better to find out this way than the first morning you wake up together!

Try to use this as a moment for change.

1. If it's put him off you then he's not the one. Our partner's should be able to help us through the most difficult times in our lives. Those are often a little gory!

2. Whether it's put him off or not, your poor self esteem has taken a real knock somewhere along the way and you'll be a lot happier by working on this.

You're overreacting. If he doesn't text again, that's his issue.

You haven't text him either?

Whether it's put him off or not, your poor self esteem has taken a real knock somewhere along the way and you'll be a lot happier by working on this.

Good point.

When this happened to me I never heard from him again! Lucky escape.

If the sight of you in your civvies put him off he is a twat and not worth your time! However if you were worried and stressed at seeing him and were a bit unenthusiastic then maybe he thinks you didn’t want to see him. Text him, if he doesn’t text back then he’s not worth it!

I agree with the others, if he doesn't like the natural you, he's not worth having.

If it helps, on Valentines Day the guy I'd met a week previously drove 60 miles to hand deliver a card. I went to the door not expecting him, having not showered that day, scruffy night dress and no bra, and he still came back for more despite me being a bit minging.

Thank you all. He has messaged me!🙈 I really do need to work on my self esteem and confidence

I'm glad he's contacted you. Good luck on working on your self esteem