Please give advice I need perspective on this situation. My son is 16 and smokes cannabis. I am very clear with him that I don't want him to smoke, that he is not allowed it in the house. When I have found it in his room I have taken it and destroyed it. This has caused my son to get very upset and angry with me.
My husband smoked cannabis when we met, however over the years after marriage I was not aware that he smoking. He certainly wasn't bringing it home. Around 6 years ago it was clear he was smoking cannabis occasionally, I wasn't thrilled about this and I don't like smoking but it seemed minimal. Last year I found out that he had been asking our son to go and buy cannabis for him. This meant that when my son did not have money to buy his own cannabis his father would enable him to get some as he would be given some of the cannabis that his dad bought. My son told me there were times when he would not have smoked cannabis as he had no money and no access to it but due to his father's behaviour he was able to. My son has admitted poor mental health and did not to well in college last year and I feel the amount of cannabis he smoked and the impact of having one parents telling him of for smoking and the other asking him to buy cannabis and to lie to his mother would have had such a negative impact on him. I am also concerned that my son is doing something illegal and is being put in a possible dangerous situation?
After a lot of arguments and very nearly separating my husband promised this wouldn't happen again. Then my husband became unwell and stopped smoking all together as a result of this. Yesterday I found out for the last month he has been asking my son to buy him cannabis again, multiple times over the last month. I am devastated. We also have a young daughter, I want to protect my children.
I need perspective here, what would you do?