My mum always seems to think its acceptable to vent/moan to me about arguments she has with my dad.
They are together, and generally happily married. But they have the normal minor arguments that couples have. My dm has a tendency to be dramatic so these become Big Deals. And then she expects me to sympathise with her, and speak against my df when i know he's most likely not done anything wrong??
Most recent one is she went to the shop to get dinner, df didnt have any preference so she got a few different things so they had options. Get home and he mentions fancying something that she didn't get. So she goes in a huff, storms off to her office and sends me a big long message complaining about how frustrated and demoralised she feels.
Yes i know its probably a bit annoying, and if dp did that i would be annoyed and maybe snap at him, but that would be it, and we would both forget about it a minute later?
I've spoken to her about this before and told her that its unfair to try and involve me or include me in their issues, if she wants to vent she has friends for that, not her daughter.
I've just ignored this message as it doesnt seem to sink in that she shouldn't be using me to vent for these things.
AIBU to expect my mum not to involve me in arguments with my dad?