I have the kind of 4 year old of whom people say ‘ooh…he’s got a lot of energy’ with varying levels of amazement/tension. He’s a total delight but also cannot be contained (or at least barely). However! He is a straightforward little soul who responds incredibly well to if-that-then-this logic and I realise it’s basically become the backbone of my parenting. My go-to is ‘if x continues then no telly in the morning’, or 1-2-3 (where 3=no telly in the morning). This seems like a fairly minor threat that he really responds to though consequences escalate if he ignores me and I always follow through! I do sometimes try to appeal to his empathy/better judgement but tbh it takes too bloody long if it works at all and in the meantime he might have set the house on fire. But I do wonder if this is going to have unintended consequences later on! Soooo….YABU=you are creating a monster or YANBU=please tell me you do this too