Feel railroaded into day out, aibu?

[clareangel]

I feel like I might be being a bit of a spoiled brat about this, or am I entitled to feel a little railroad? Hubby just texted me we are out for the day Sunday and he will ask son to look after dog. Its his birthday on couple of weeks and when I enquired further he says he's booked tickets for something good Sunday. So Sunday is the only day I have off in 3 weeks, and I'm dealing with my elderly mum with dementia and ASC as to whether she can go home or not from temp care home, she lives 40 miles away and I'm closest so down to me to go over and sort things, not an issue at all, she's my mum, but with full time short-staffed work I'm just feeling quite tired and was so looking forward to a day just chilling out at home. I feel resentful that he's just booked it and told me rather than asked me, but then I feel selfish as he's tried to do something nice! Should I just keep my trap shut and smile and go? We are a little right on cash so I'm a bit worried he's splurged but I ask it will cause cause row, please tell me if I'm being spoiled!

I understand exactly how you feel but I think I would just go with whatever he has planned and try and have a lovely day. I think he is trying to do something nice for you both. Unless it turns out to be something for him alone, which you have absolutely no interest in.

Thank you Leeds2, I think think I will try and do as you suggest and make the best of it, I dont want to be mean spirited or put a dampener on something he's tried to do, my heart sank as I'm just exhausted right now but think I just needed to hear some encouragement! Thank you for your reply hun x

It sounds like he’s just trying to do something nice, and it’s important to stay connected with each other even in busy/difficult times so try and take the positives out of it if you can. Totally not unreasonable to be a little disappointed though when you were looking forward to a day at home though.

I agree. Unless he's arranged watching a footie match or similar, slap a smile on and go. Hopefully you'll end up enjoying it

Thank you both, I'm going to put on my big girl knickers and go with it! Was looking good forward to watching the F1 .. wouldn't mind if it was that! But guessing quick trip to Baku out of the question!