To dispose of neighbour's parcel

[Petmalex]

I have a parcel that I took in for my neighbour as they were out during delivery. This was 3 weeks ago! This isn't the first time it's taken them ages to collect their parcel. Once before it took them 10 days to collect it and they didn't even say thank you. The delivery driver said that their neighbours to the other side won't take their parcels in because they don't take theirs. I know they're in because I see them going in and out of their house and their car leaves and returns. So either, they haven't got the memo that I have their parcel, they have forgotten about it, or they just cannot be arsed and are waiting for me to go over with it. They've never been very friendly with me as I have tried with them so I'm less inclined to do the latter. Plus, I have a chip on my shoulder with them as back when we 'clapped for carers/NHS' at 8pm on a Thursday night, I was always putting my baby down to sleep or in the middle of some kind of baby stress and not in the position to come to my front door and clap. My opinion on this is for another time but needless to say, I don't deem someone less religious for not going to church every Sunday. Anyway, I am pretty sure they were the ones who put a note through my door saying could I come and clap for carers which I was furious about but I have no proof! So back to the matter in hand, what would you do with this package and how long do I have to keep it for before I either throw it in the bin (or return to sender obvs)?

You're disgraceful. If they knew that you'd got their parcel, they'd have already been for it. Nobody leaves a parcel for 3 weeks. Take it round, whether you like them or not. Next time, don't accept anything for them.

Yes I saw your reply after I had posted. I suppose that now you know whose parcel you actually do have, you could always call out yoohoo when you see them coming in, and relieve yourself of said parcel?📦

Why would you bin it rather than leaving it on their doorstep?

However, we don't know for sure if they know I have it. Likewise, I don't know for sure it was them who posted the note re clapping for carers.

but you're willing to blame them for it and complain about them on a forum anyway?

OP said she thought it was for a little old lady who lives next door. (Never thought to mention this in her OP, but decided to mention it, in her 4th post.)

It really isn't normal to hold grudges and dislike people you don't even know for imagined slights. Clapping has been 2 years ago! You have no idea if they left the note for you or not.
You see the neighbours going in and out daily but haven't thought to open the door and say, "hey, I got your package"

It might be helpful to talk to a therapist

In this case the probably don't even know you have it. Take it round and return it then never take in a parcel again

You don't work for DHL, don't take it over. Bin it.

@RaspberryChouxBuns very bad advice and legally not okay. If you do not want to take responsibility for the parcel, do not accept it in the first place.

I agree.

Granted, the note she received was unpleasant, but she doesn't even know what neighbour it came from. Nothing about the OP's behaviour here says "well adjusted adult".

Don’t dispose of the parcel, it will be traced back to you. Best to take it round to the neighbours. Check the house number before taking parcels in again. Our old neighbours would expect us to take in theirs and then expect us to trot round to deliver them…pre Xmas we’d taken in loads so we just said no to the delivery people.

Omg, even if they're awful, just bring it round!

Unless it's taking up loads of room, so nothing.

In future do not sign for or accept any of their parcels.

As for clapping for carers, you are not a performing seal so don't feel guilty for not participating in something so hideously pointless.

Please don’t leave it on the front door step. A friend did this with a neighbours parcel and the neighbour said the parcel was stolen and what was in the parcel was worth a lot of money. In the end my friend paid him some money although he wasn’t sure if he was telling the truth but to keep the peace. He was trying to be a nice neighbour. What do they say, no good turn goes unpunished .

But the OP has no idea who actually wrote that note.

She also doesn't even know if the neighbours are aware she has their parcel.

She's just sitting stewing over it and contemplating binning it, without giving them the courtesy of even telling them.

I'm glad she's not my neighbour!

This is reminding me of the poster who wouldn't return the wallet.

Just put it on their doorstep and refuse all future parcels. Drama over.

I always take them round when I see the people are back. It's not much hassle, and before now the delivery driver has written the wrong number so they didn't know who had it.

Just take the parcel round. Job done.

Wow. Just take it round. What a fuss about nothing.

I happily take in for our neighbours and sometimes notes are/aren't left. However the family over the road ignored a parcel at ours for about 2 weeks. I tried a couple of times to drop it over , no answer but I was sure someone was in. Vowed not to try again, or take any in in the future. Couple of days later the woman came over on crutches and extremely heavily pregnant. She had been on bed rest and her mum has put the card somewhere. I carried it over for her, explained I had tried to deliver it, felt very guilty and gave myself a kick up the arse.
Deliver it round to get rid of it and don't take any more in for them.

Flying vertebrate feculence.

Maybe I’m a bit ocd as I’m actively looking for my neighbour to return when I accept a parcel so I can get rid of it. They’ve usually not unlocked their door and I’m there 🤣

That's not OCD, even a little bit OCD as if that's a thing.

My crime? Incorrectly using the term OCD for something that clearly wasn’t. And there was I thinking that the use of 😂 indicated an element of humour. My fake OCD isn’t a joking matter.

If I miss a parcel I never know where it's been left even when a pictures been taken I don't know what my neighbours feet look like and non of us have a door mat cause the block cleaners keep removing them has there a fire hazard. Last time I missed a parcel it took me 4 days to find out who had it.