AIBU to purchase this ticket?

[TonyBlairsLover]

So for my friends 18th birthday I got her (and myself) a ticket to a show that’s on in London, you can probably guess which one by my name! She was super excited.

it’s in early July and as you know tickets to London at this time of the year are quite expensive. A few days ago I asked my friend if we should sort the tickets out (we were going to meet as she lives half way down to London from mine) she said that we can discuss it later, later never came.

im quite conscious that if I don’t sort them out soon I’ll end up not being able to go. My only issue is I’m worried she’s not gonna go, I’ve had a sneaky feeling for a while that she only really likes me cos I buy her stuff (IK bad habit but it relates to stuff in my childhood)

so should I get the ticket or wait it out?

Get your ticket and start priming someone else to go with you in case she does drop out. Or speak to her bluntly and narrow down what she plans to do.

In your post you've said you've got the tickets but also not got them yet. Which is it?

If you want to sort it - dates, book travel etc, then call her and sort it. If you don't, then don't. If she's being evasive then say 'I'm getting the impression that you don't want to go to X with me. Totally fine if so, I'm booking for me on Y date so if you do want to come let me know by then.

Who has the tickets right now? You said you got them, so if she won't go can you ask someone else?

@Palavah I have tickets for the event, not the train tickets. I should’ve clarified, my bad

Sorry OP, I'm a bit confused. You said you go her (and you) a ticket. Then you ask should you get her a ticket.
Is it the case that you've bought tickets and she hasn't committed to the date, or are you expecting her to pay?
If she hasn't committed to the date, then you need to chase her up. Presumably if its a show she's really into, then she'd jump at the chance.
It's probably a good idea to have a backup person in case she bails.

@ZarquonsSandals 😭 I am confusing most of the time sorry. So I got us tickets to the event but we need to book train tickets. If she can’t go I’ll just go alone (not bothered plus I can get spicy food for tea so)

I'd just book your train ticket. Have you paid for her ticket to the show?

Just book your own ticket

Then just book your ticket. Hopefully she can let you know ASAP.

@Clymene yes I did

Yep, book your own train ticket.
Send her a message to say, I'm going to book the 11am train to xxx. Do you want to get the same one? Shall we book together?
Give her a day or so to respond, if she doesn't then send a follow up saying... haven't heard from you so I'm booking my own train ticket. Are you sure you're still coming? If not, no worries but let me know so I can sell the ticket or bring someone else.

One more very definite deadline.

Call her, don’t msg as that risks waiting for a reply.

Say “I’m getting the train tix booked this weekend. I could get such and such train that meets yours at xx. Does that suit?”.

Are you paying for her train ticket too? If not and she still demurs just book your ticket and if she dies plan hers later, fine. If she doesn’t: her loss. And take someone else last minute.

And have a think about this friendship.

Book your own ticket if you want to go anyway and just say hi as I haven't heard back I've booked my train ticket- its the x leaving at y time. I'd also give her an out (possible she can't afford to buy it?) If you've changed your mind no worries but please let me know kinda thing.

So does she owe you the money for her theatre ticket or is that your treat?

Honestly, I think I'd tell her she needs to confirm/book her train ticket by X date or you'll sell her ticket.

It's one thing to be happy to go on your own; it's another to throw away £70 needlessly because your mate is flaky as hell

I'm intrigued by this particular show. On the surface it sounds dreadful, but it could end up being hilarious.

But definitely get your train ticket if you are wanting to secure advance prices.

Presents that involve outlay on the other person’s part can be a bit tricky especially if she’s only just turned 18. Is she more of a fan of the show than you are?