Situation a friend is going through and wants a perspective on, gonna just give the cliff notes here - she wants to wean her toddler who wakes a lot through the night. Standard advice is, let your DH deal with it. Toddler is incredibly clingy to mum and melts down when she doesn't instantly BF.
she's a SAHM but from birth her DH has been really involved, he runs his own business and took 6m SPL and since then works from home v flexibly, he's around a great deal and from what I've seen and what she's told me, is very hands on and does his fair share of the load around the home and with the kid. The issue they're having is, from the beginning, the DH wanted her to let him settle the baby for some naps, and do some bedtimes, himself. He wanted to be able to be a part of some of those moments. She insisted on feeding to sleep for every single sleep, as she'd read it was the biological norm. Her DH felt very pushed out by this, he wasn't asking her to stop BF, just asking that he have a chance to cuddle/rock/whatever his baby to sleep a couple of times a week. She flat refused. Now fast forward about 18m and the toddler is completely reliant on boob to sleep and she's on her knees. Her DH is very resentful of the fact that he is now expected to step up and spend a week dealing with massively distressed, screaming child who just wants him to go away for all naps, bedtimes and night wakes, when he'd previously begged to be allowed to establish his own settling routine with the baby and been refused. He's going to do it, obviously, but he's pretty upset about it and wants his wife to acknowledge that the whole situation has been pretty unfair on him. She feels like it was her right to BF for every single sleep and that it's not on for him to hold that against her now she wants to stop. Who's in the wrong here?