My ex-to-be is an idiot and I need to vent here vs suffocating him in his "brilliant sleep"

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Of course, like everything soon to be ex does, he does it "phenomenally"(his words not mine!). I hadn't slept the evening prior as DD is teething for the millionth time and I had an early zoom call. He saw me in the kitchen and said: God. You look drunk and weathered. A)Not sure what drunk and weathered have in common B)I wish I were drunk C) I can't wait to sleep with his boss (okay that is not true hahaha but I'm just very angry this morning!)

The cheek of him to tell me I look like a mess when I am doing EVERY night with our DD and working full time. I can't wait to legally change my surname. Maybe I'll change it to the guy who mows the lawn for us. Why not? Life is long and grand so why should I hold back?

Love,

Angry mumsetter with useless ex

So why isn’t he taking his turn with DD ? Presumably he will have to do it when he has access.

He is not! He keeps stating that his work is so vital. I asked him to do night duties the other evening but he made such a song and dance re it that I figured F you. I don't need my DD having a dad who somehow assumes I should be congratulating him for being there for her. And I told him as such. I said I will never congratulate him on being a parent and that we are all tired. I may not be as brilliant as him (!!) but I do have some kind of mind power that ensures I am able to get a salary myself.

Tell him he looks shit too?

He saw you in the kitchen, so you’re still living together?

Hand him responsibility for DD tonight and you get some sleep, he sounds pathetic.

He does look like shit. Has gained quite some weight as he is "snowed in" with a million demands. I wouldn't usually be this nasty as a person and neither do I think weight means anything but I'm just so beside myself with fury as how he had the nerve to remark on my appearance when he knows I had a rough night with DD

Yes. We are still living together as my lawyer has advised me against moving out. Thankfully I don't share a room with him as he is in the guest bedroom but we are "civil". How dare he tell me I look like a wreck when it's a shock I don't look worse considering I was once married to him!!!

Tell him you don't expect comments on your appearance now you are seperated.

Agreed. I wish I had the mental energy to have stated this. I'm just fuming over there.

One thing I do want to share is, a nice younger lad at Costa coffee told me I was pretty. Granted he was probably 19 and I was very angry and could barely form my words as I ordered a coffee. HOWEVER, I will take any win I can. If a potentially meth addicted 19 year old who may have a fake tooth thinks I am pretty, then so be it!!

I would suggest when you're at work you texy and say how exhausted you are from every night with the baby and please can he actually do one or two nights as he has done none at all. Let.hom reply eith no. May come in handy for.your process re access and money.

Well done keeping your sense of humour!!

This is a great idea. He has watched her I'd say ONCE in the last month. His continuous excuse is that his work is "brutal". Well, I have a job too (maybe not as "brilliant" as his but it is a job) and yet, somehow I manage to take care of our child and work full time.

Brilliant sleep. Haha love it!!

Yep, sleep with the gardener if his hot

What is his brilliant job?

Whats the plan for after the divorce im assuming he is expecting overnights? Split custody? Console yourself you will get a good night's sleep soon

Thank you. I'm barely getting by. I recall myself being a good person but these days I take pleasure in one of his colleagues hitting on me (now that I am "single")🤣. By the way, I am the LAST person to condone extramarital affairs (I may be single but his colleague is not). But where I suppose it strikes me is that he had told me that said colleague thinks "you are crazy" and "he cannot believe how much I am suffering being married to you" (!!).

Well turns out certain colleague clearly thinks I'm too hot and is overlooking my "madness" as per soon to be ex! Again I do not condone extramarital affairs at all. To be honest, post my divorce, I may just become lesbian haha...or asexual!

Ps please don't take my politically incorrect words in a bad way. If you are someone facing a messing divorce with an idiot, you will see how imperative it is to just vent!

The gardener is very "light on the eyes" haha! He does a shit job with our garden but maybe his talents will lie in bed with me;-) Hahaha! Please forgive my sleaziness. I cannot CANNOT wait to rid myself of my idiot husband.

He has his own company now. He thinks I don't understand value of a hard day at work even though it's my paycheck that pays our bills and food. I earn far less than he does. He keeps telling me I "need his money as I am 5 star everything" and bought me the most ridiculous Christian Louboutin heels. A) I haven't worn heels in three years! B) IS HE ON DRUGS?? C) Where am I to wear said heels considering I don't sleep at night and work all day!!!

I dare you to stare right at your gardener and ask that he tends to your bush....
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No reason why you can’t set up a contact schedule now even though you are living in the same house. I’d suggest you do this - also in writing so you can keep his response. Send him a proposal based on what you want. remind him it’s in DDs interest to have quality time with both parents.

Why not? I'm single even if I'm in denial. Gardener must notice my sexual frustration as he is walking around shirtless.

He is just brilliant. If you have no life and several hours to space, you can check my previous posts. Sadly I was one of those women who constantly made excuses for DH but it took getting trashed and forcing one of my mum groups to accept I was related to Kenny Roger's to see I have a DH problem