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AIBU?

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partner unreasonable imo

7 replies

Tivvi · 10/06/2022 06:24

since we've had our beautiful baby he complains to me i have no time for him. questions whether i love him which i find ridiculous as we've always been a very loving couple. i'm so tired and in my spare time i wash dishes, cook or clean clothes. i have two other kids too. i'm breastfeeding baby and attentively looking after and teaching baby. i help my grandma out when i can and in between all of this i nap very rarely if possible. sometimes i can't even go to the toilet without being called upon. he says to me "you have all day to do these things" when i explain how i have no time for even myself. i'm happy though until he brings this up, i'm sorry your penis is feeling like it's the other baby i'm not looking after but the baby is the priority and it's not very motivational when guilted and told i have all day to cook and clean.....love him but want to feel understood and supported not patronised and questioned! exasperated! AIBU?

OP posts:
Moosake · 10/06/2022 06:28

Has he ever looked after the children by himself?

12Thorns · 10/06/2022 06:30

He needs to grow up

Tivvi · 10/06/2022 06:34

yes he has and is good with the kids. i was working before and he looked after the baby in the mornings even.

OP posts:
Tivvi · 10/06/2022 06:36

12Thorns · 10/06/2022 06:30

He needs to grow up

i agree. honestly feel really sick of being stressed out for such rubbish.

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Moosake · 10/06/2022 06:38

Tivvi · 10/06/2022 06:34

yes he has and is good with the kids. i was working before and he looked after the baby in the mornings even.

And did he do all the housework while he looked after them?

Tivvi · 10/06/2022 06:42

Moosake · 10/06/2022 06:38

And did he do all the housework while he looked after them?

never haha he has done the entire kitchen all of three times in 2 years. he's got good qualities but his guilting about no attention / time for him is just driving me insane.

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Moosake · 10/06/2022 06:44

Tivvi · 10/06/2022 06:42

never haha he has done the entire kitchen all of three times in 2 years. he's got good qualities but his guilting about no attention / time for him is just driving me insane.

Then he has no idea what he's on about. It's mentally exhausting trying to look after everyone else's needs. If he helped you out round the house or gave you time to yourself so you feel less touched out then maybe you'd have the time and emotional energy for him.

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