To think that a little flirting is fun?

[KoalaCub]

I’ve had a bit of a moment with a guy who works next to our business. He works for another organisation but our branches right beside each other.

I’ve been put in touch with him due to some issues that need to be resolved between the two businesses (nothing serious we are all friendly, just something that needed to be seen to)
We’ve been back and forth a bit and I’ve helped him ans he helped me with certain things. Couple of texts here and there and quick chats…

He popped into my work the other day to collect something from me. I was quite excited to see him. We had a super quick, brief chat and after he left my colleague just went ‘he fancies you’… I was like what do you mean? And he was like I could see a sparkle in his eyes… and in all fairness I felt something!

Now, our problem we had between the two branches is pretty much sorted, but I want to keep on flirting… I’m too much of a chicken to reach out and I’m not looking for anything from him apart from a little flirting and something exciting at work. AIBU to just want to flirt a bit? What should I do?

If you're both single then go for it.

Are you?

If you are both single, yes flirting is ok

Are you both single?

Good question, I don’t know his relationship status

As long as he understand you aren't wanting anything other than some flirty banter to break the work day up or then I can't see the harm but there's a chance that if you reach out he may think you want to pursue something outside of work hours like casual sex/fwb or a relationship so I'd say to make sure you both know where you stand and go for it but only if you're both single because some partners wouldn't be happy with that set up.

Could you look him up on social media maybe and see if he's in a relationship?

@ChronicallyOnline I’ve had a look but I’m not great at online stalking and worried that he might see that I’ve been looking him up… most of the accounts I found seem to be private as well. I believe he not long moved to the area on his own so I reckon he is single or maybe casually dating but I am not 100% certain

I think flirty banter is fine, as long as you're both on the same page with regards to where it could lead (i.e. is one of you flirting with intent and the other isn't?). I have a couple of people I flirt with, but all parties know it's not ever leading to anything.

I want to be friend with him. He seems like a nice guy and I could really do with a friend. He seems down to Earth and I think we would get on really well as friends

obvs he is pretty hot and handsome and I just wouldn’t mind a bit of flirting and I think it’s would do for both of our egos 🤪