New job - have I committed a faux pas?!

[Sunshine389]

Please let me know if you think I'm in the wrong here or if my manager is out of order.

I work for a big company and applied for and was offered a new role, which I'm excited about. There were 2 roles available so my new manager asked me if I knew anyone for the second and to tell them to apply if so.
My colleague A, has confided in me that she's looking for a new opportunity internally. A's great at her job so I mentioned the job to her, she applied and was offered it. I never told my new manager that I knew anyone who was interested so A got the job on her own merit (I guess they know we're from the same team but everything interview wise was above board)

So now my current manager is visibly annoyed at me at snapped at me today saying I shouldn't have told A about the job. I appreciate that she will soon be 2 staff down but equally aren't we allowed to move on and develop in our careers?! Also A was actively looking so it was highly likely she would've found the job herself.

A part of me does wonder if I'm in the wrong though and whether I should apologise to my manager?!

Nope, nothing to apologise fir.

agree with the PP. nothing to apologise for at all!

It’s the “they are MY people” mindset at play

They see you and your other colleague as their resources to do what they will, versus you as people

Crappy management mindset

You have nothing to apologise for. People leave their jobs. Happens all the time

Agree with everyone else, you have nothing to apologise for. Employees developing and finding new opportunities within the same company would be seen as a positive thing for most employers..

YANBU it's not slavery, nothing wrong with changing jobs. Your manager should be apologising for snapping at you.

Nothing to apologise for.

The business will have to look at why two staff members chose to leave for the same company and work out what they need to change in order to retain staff.

If it's a big organisation the likelihood is that they would advertise the job to all internally so she would have seen it and applied anyway.

No, you made the cardinal error of being a successful woman and helping another women to be successful.

You were supposed to be happy in your place, as was your colleague.

You've done nothing wrong.
And both you and your colleague have dodged a bullet with such a self-centred manager. It's not your problem if she can't retain her team.
Well done both of you.

Sorry I misread & thought it was an internal move, but it's not is it?
Anyway, it's not your fault either way.

Thanks all, I'm relieved the responses are positive and I've not breached some unwritten rule. It's my first "proper job" post grad scheme so don't have too much experience.
Yes the roles are internal, we're not going to another company.
I'm glad I get to work with A aswell, rather than some unknown person who I might not get on with!

OK, so how were they hoping to fill the other job without advertising for it?
If they advertised it, then colleague could have seen the ad without your prompting anyway.
She was the best person for the job and got it.
She has stayed within the company.

I hope you will be leaving the duff manager behind?

Absolutely fine. Sounds as if they don't want people to move internally though which is a shit attitude so I'd be prepared you may have to look externally if you ever want a new job.

@Bluetrews25 yes the job was advertised internally as I went for it but it didn't say there were 2 roles available. So it was still open for applications when I was offered the role as only 1 had been filled.
Like you say, A might've seen it herself anyway.

Yes, we'll no longer be working with current manager but who knows if we'll work with her again in the future so didn't want to burn any bridges!

As a manager, I get great pleasure from seeing members of my team move into more senior roles within the company. I tell them about opportunities myself and help them apply. Managing staff turnover is a just part of the job. If she can't cope with it, I question her competence.

This. Yes it's hard to lose good staff initially, but I'm so proud of staff who've developed in their roles and then move on.

You've done nothing wrong at all, and people moving on is part of life. I handed in my notice at my old job and within a week three others had done the same (small team) - it’s just how things go. If she was looking anyway, she’d have left sooner or later. I can imagine it’s tough being in your managers position but it’s part of the job and she shouldn’t get arsey with you about it.

You have nothing to apologize for. They haven't reinvented slavery. Of course it's awkward for your old manager and it creates work, but this is the nature of management. When I've been in those roles I've always been pleased to see people doing well, even if I don't want to lose them (and it's always the ones you don't want to lose who leave). Congratulations on the new job and well done for encouraging A to apply.

Nothing to apologise for. In fact, count yourself lucky you moved on because your boss was never going to actively support your career.

visibly annoyed at me at snapped at me today saying I shouldn't have told A about the job
So the manager thought you should have connived to keep the vacancy hidden from the person who was so right for the job they were offered it?
Also you can't stop your friend from applying for jobs ... its good that this person is no longer your direct manager.