Shocked at how pregnant I still look 6 week after second ??

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Does it get better ? I am so depressed. I can't believe how disgusting I still look. Whereas my husband still looks the same. How unfair is that in life ? That they just get to stay the same and we have to change so much. Is it harder after the second baby to look normal ish again ? I can't wear anything even slightly tight. I still look 6 months. I think I have split diastecis recto above the belly button.

What can I do ? I literally cry when I look in the mirror and don't recognise this old, fat woman. I can't stop thinking that my husband thinks he's better looking than me now too. I just want to be myself again.

Didn't want to read and run. I had my first via C-section 4 weeks ago, she was almost 10lb and I'd put on almost 4 stone. My stomach is still really big and has stopped visibly shrinking so I'm hoping it's slowly going and I'm just not noticing as much. I've lost two stone just from having her so only two to go.

I bought some compression leggings and they're bloody brilliant. Can completely recommend them to help support everything as it moves back into place.

And yes, the fact the man gets away with not having their body ruined honestly gives me ridiculous rage. I fume about it a lot!

I promise you don't look disgusting. I've had 1 natural birth, 4 sections and it has affected my body I'm not going to lie. I used to do glamour modelling and I look back at pictures of the old me and I could cry.. but I've come to terms with it now. I try to make the best of myself to boost my confidence and it's worth it for my family.

Same boat. Had two huge babies now look pregnant 5 weeks pp. makes me upset every day.

You may have diastasis recti. You can Google it and if you do, I suggest starting the diastasis safe exercises such as vacuums. It can be made worse by some exercise so be mindful of that.

I found it took a bit longer to go back to normal after my second. You are 6 weeks pp please go easy on yourself it's still very early days.

Please give yourself a break. Your body is not disgusting. It has done a great job carrying and birthing two babies! The phrase "9 months on, 9 months off" gave me a reasonable time frame to concentrate on my babies, sleeping, eating, and so on. Six weeks is still such a short time after you've just spent 9 months pregnant!

Have you talked to anyone about how you feel? It could really help to talk through your feelings. It is really unfair that men get off scot free from a lot of the shit bits, so make sure your husband is pulling his weight!

It will get better, just have patience 💐

Time, please give yourself a little bit more time. I know it can be very hard to see yourself in this way, the sagging skin, the bloat etc. I have had 3 big babies and I’m pregnant with #4.

I did do slimming world for about 8 weeks from #3 was about 10 weeks and it helped lose weight. I also saw a women’s health physio from 6 weeks to make sure everything I did was not injuring me.

I let my body heal, but helped it by using experts to ensure anything I did was correct.

I then started PT and running again when #3 was about 6 months.

But please, please give yourself a bit of time to heal, nurture your lovely body and then get some professional help to make sure that your recovery is not actually making anything worse.

Someone told me this after I had my baby - it takes 9 months to grow your child, give your body an equal amount of time to bounce back.
Your body has just done something amazing, it's not disgusting it's incredible. Try to be kinder to yourself. Big hugs.

Thanks everyone. It's really hard. I also have PND, all if it together just sucks.

Does anyone know who I should see who could check me out and then give me exercises to do ? A physio for example ? Or a personal trainer ? I think a physio might be better.

I definitely have DR I think.

A physio is your best bet. You specifically need a women’s health physio. Mine worked miracles, healing me of chronic pelvic pain I had from my first pregnancy, which never healed, and became increasingly worse during 2 more.

It will get better I promise. Much love!

I have diastasis recti OP, I was referred to a women's health physio. Baby is 1 and I'm still on the waiting list 😥There is some good info online if you look though.
I have no solutions, just offering support that you're not the only one, it's hard.

Allow yourself much more time to recover. Then look at a calorie controlled diet to lose weight sensibly

If you haven’t already please find a womens health physio to work on your diastecis.

it’s only been 6 weeks, go easy on yourself.

My youngest is seven years old and my stomach is not what it once was!