To end all contacts with my friend

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I have a friend who is constantly bringing me down. It's been over 10 years now. She sucks the life out of me. Always competes and I can't take it anymore

I've made comments in the past that she should stop comparing our lives as I wasn't in a competition with her. But she carries on doing it.

When I bought a new car she said : "oh nice car .. we're getting a new one too.. considered your model but it just wasn't good enough for us so we're getting X instead"

We just got back from a 5 day holiday, that's all we could do as DH had to get back to work. She said how lovely that we've had a great MINI holiday and she can't wait to go away for 2 WEEKS as that's a proper holiday. She'd die with only 5 days 😂

Is it me or is this childish? I'm stuck in a competition I don't want to be part of !
Everything has to be a competition from our DH& DC to our jobs and houses and furniture and cars etc

How can I make it clear to her in a polite way that I can't do it anymore. It really starts getting to me?
If this doesn't work I'm seriously considering ending my friendship with her. It would be a shame as she used to be sooo sooo lovely but after meeting her now DH things have changed so much.
Any advice ?

The phrase "what a sad little life, Jane" comes to mind. Distance yourself.

She's jealous of your life and can't be very happy in her own, if she feels the need to do this. I've had friends like this and it's so sad as like you, I'm competing with no one. It's always been more subtle comments in my case, but upsetting none the less. I don't think there's much you can do really, other than politely tell her how she comes across sometimes or just cut down contact.

She won’t change.
I had a friend exactly like this and slowly distanced myself because I didn’t want to let her make it into another big drama if I had ‘ended the friendship’.
She obviously noticed my lack of interest in her anymore, deleted me off social media and it was the best result ever because if mutual friends ask me if I still see her I can just say we drifted apart and carry on with my day 😁

Why are you bothered about being polite when she is so rude to you. I would just be blunt with someone like her and tell her that her childish competitiveness is getting you down and she needs to stop it.

She’s a pita. Dump her.

Hahaha, just have a laugh at it, and happily get on with enjoying your life.
An acquaintance commented when I got a new car that their DC's granny had one (sports car), but soon 'upgraded'. I was a bit taken aback, but then had a giggle over it. Life would be very boring if we were all the same.

I'd tell her you were selling your house and moving an hour away, with any luck she'll move to the other side of the country.