Struggling with pregnancy announcements

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Background, took 2.5 years to conceive and had a failed round of IVF (IVF cycle took 3.5 month as my body didn't respond to medications as it should have, should have been 6-8 weeks). I found it traumatic mentally not physically. Dreaded going for another round so took a break, just before starting the next round I fell pregnant and have a beautiful 3 year old.
I had a few colleagues who were ttc and going through IUI/IVF and investigations. I used to find announcements etc hard. So when I found out I was pregnant I didn't tell anyone at work until I was 14 weeks and never really mentioned my pregnancy unless someone brought it up (I'm not a fan of being centre of attention anyway).
I'm not one to put things on Facebook etc.
So now when my child is 3..... Im find pregnancy announcements really hard, what triggers me is when people say.... we weren't trying etc. No idea why it's affecting me now.
A colleague of mine took medication to prevent her period on her wedding day and came back to work 2 weeks later 8 weeks pregnant and going on and on about how she's pregnant. I know there's a couple of people struggling to conceive so I don't know if it's me projecting my feelings what I had on the or what...
Sorry the post is long! Any suggestions or AIBU and just have to suck it up!?

I'm in the exact same position. Sadly, you do just have to suck it up. I try to pull back in certain situations. It's like that phrase 'you can't control the actions of other people, you can only control how you respond to it'.
It's hard, and I let myself get upset to my husband each and every time... Then I pick myself up and shake myself off. It's the only thing you can do xxx

Your feelings are your feelings, but they’re not helping you so try and put them into perspective. You were very private about your pregnancy, I was the same, but it’s not wrong for other people to be more open. And when someone’s pregnant it soon becomes apparent whether they actively tell people or not.

You had some struggles but you got your daughter, something loads of people would be incredibly grateful for, you’re very lucky.

I’m sure lots of people might feel similarly to you but it’s not serving you well so it’s worth unpicking where it’s coming from, why now, and taking time to appreciate what you’ve got.

It’s trauma, it can manifest in lots of different ways. We struggled for 4 years to have our DD and now that she’s here I find myself really triggered by people getting positive pregnancy tests in TV programmes of all things. I look at them enjoying the excitement of the positive test and I feel awful because when I got the positive with my DD I couldn’t allow myself to feel anything because I was sure it would end horribly as the others had and I feel really shit about that. Jesus, welling up just thinking about it 🙈 I also did the same as you, didn’t tell anyone unnecessary and only close people found out when I was well into the second trimester and in some cases the third. Didn’t buy anything until a few weeks from the end.

I think I’m just mainly jealous that their experience hasn’t been marred like mine was and think it must be lovely to live in such ignorance. I remember the feeling from my first pregnancy, I was so completely unaware.