bit of background, in our 40s busy lives but try & meet up every few months for a chat, food etc! group of 6 of us, been friends 20 + years…. my birthday is the same month as another girl in the group so tend to do something together (which i don’t mind).
usually we all pay for the birthday person (however with lockdown etc i’ve never revived this as in previous years we’ve gone on a night out etc …) went out for tea at the weekend, & paid for myself, no one offered …. now i understand that there is both me & my friend who’s birthday it is (3 weeks apart) but it was my actual birthday evening … but for me, if you’re going i’m going to pay for the birthday person every time for everyone else in the group then should i expect the same treatment?? we don’t exchange gifts so that payment for the food is a nice gesture… plus we went somewhere, where i’t only came to £20 each …
for me it’s not the payment it’s the gesture & i feel i’m within my rights to not put in for the birthday person in future!?? we’ve been to places where it’s come to more than £60 each & i’ve paid ..