Am I over reacting?

[Sarahlou25r]

I really need to know, am I being unreasonable or was he?

The other day I had asked my partner to go to the shop for me and get lunch for him and I. I wasn’t able to go to the shop as I’m currently working from home. He says yes, then potters around the house for an hour before he decided to go. At this stage I’m hangry. He then tells me he’s not going to the shop that is less than 5 minutes away from our house he’s going to the one that takes an hour to get there and back. I explained that I was starving (dramatic I know, it’s my time of the month) and the shop 5 minutes away has everything the shop an hour away does. He flat out refused to just go to the local shop. In my mind this way completely unreasonable so I snapped and I shouted at him. He’s now demanding an apology but I don’t think he deserves one. Side note- we hadn’t been shopping so there was nothing in the house I could eat bar baby food

Do you not get a lunch break?

is your dh this unhelpful usually?

Was your partner working too, or on a day off?

Tbh, shouting at him for not going to the shop you wanted him to go to is an overreaction in my mind. If you're so hangry then can't you pop to the 5 minute away shop on your lunch break? It sounds like much ado about nothing from an outside perspective.

I think it's reasonable for him to expect an apology for being shouted at.

To be honest I think as an adult you can be responsible for making sure you have food in the house and organising it, rather than asking someone else to go quickly because you’re ‘hangry.’ I’m not keen on that type of excuse anyway, it just sounds bizarre to me since as an adult I’m in charge of my behaviour no matter how hungry I was. If I found it was making me annoyed I’d think to myself ‘in future I mustn’t let it get to the point where I have nothing to eat, there should always be something in the house for me.’ You even could have ensured you had something in the house for lunch before starting work.

But then I wouldn’t accept DH throwing a tantrum and shouting at me because he was hungry and I hadn’t run to the shops quickly enough. I’d expect him to forward plan what he would eat like any other adult.

You shouldn’t have shouted at him. Surely it’s better to go to the big shop, as it’ll be cheaper usually? I’m imagining a local mini shop versus a big supermarket- is that right? If the local shop is so close, why didn’t you just pop in in your lunch break?

You were being bratty and ridiculous. Women don't do themselves any favours by blaming 'tine of the month' for being an arsehole.

@Sarahlou25r

Why couldn't you go yourself?

If the shops five mins away surely you could have gone there and back in the same time as a loo break?

Comes across as bratty and entitled op im afraid.

Your a grown adult. Get your own lunch if you want it there and then.

Can you not be more organised with food shopping? Even home delivery on prime is same day.

@Sarahlou25r

Why couldn't you go yourself?

If the shops five mins away surely you could have gone there and back in the same time as a loo break?

Comes across as bratty and entitled op im afraid.

Your a grown adult. Get your own lunch if you want it there and then.

Can you not be more organised with food shopping? Even home delivery on prime is same day.

@Sarahlou25r

Why couldn't you go yourself?

If the shops five mins away surely you could have gone there and back in the same time as a loo break?

Comes across as bratty and entitled op im afraid.

Your a grown adult. Get your own lunch if you want it there and then.

Can you not be more organised with food shopping? Even home delivery on prime is same day.

If the local shop was only 5min away, surely you could spare 5 minutes from your busy day to pop over and pick up something to eat?

You sound ungrateful and bossy OP.

If you were ‘starving’, you could have taken the 5 minute trip to your local shop to get your own lunch.

‘Working from home’ isn’t an excuse that you couldn’t go. If you are legally not allowed a 5 minute break from your laptop/computer then you need to speak to HR. Urgently.

Yes YABU and a brat. Take a lunch break and go to the shop like a normal person.

Did you literally have no food in the house? That's the only thing that would explain you letting yourself get so hungry that you behaved like that.

I work from home sometimes, but I'm still allowed to go to the shop in my lunch break or make myself something from the cupboards in my house.

I think you only have yourself to blame here. If my DH is working from home and I'm off that day, it's not my responsibility to provide his lunch and you should have sorted yours out yourself, like a grown up.