To wonder what it’s like to be genuinely attractive?

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I’ve often wondered…

I guess I’m average, I may even be below average to be honest (in my own opinion)

I have the classic naturally blonde hair and blue eyes, with pale skin. But my features aren’t great (I don’t think), I’ve got quite broad shoulders too.

I’m just wondering what it’s like to be beautiful?

I had a best friend who was truly beautiful

It was amazing in some ways (people would do anything for her) but also shit (lots of male attention 99.9% unwanted, assumptions made about her - must be shallow / stupid etc)

I think best would be very handsome but not every head turning every time beauty

Life would then be very easy

I wish I knew but it's not going to happen.

I would imagine it's easier to form relationships, but you might end up with someone who values you mainly for your looks.

Looking back at photos of me in my 20s I was really beautiful although I felt very average at the time.

Now I am very average and suddenly I feel invisible. Quite embarrassingly it's occurred to me that the men who appeared to be listening to me and taking me seriously as a relatively newly qualified professional in my 20s no longer do so now that I'm middle aged and significantly more experienced in my job.

Clearly it wasn't my dazzling professional skills that were getting me noticed and promoted it was my appearance and my 'availability'.

I fucking hate that.

I wonder this a lot. I always imagine that I would be much more confident and enjoy trying loads of different clothes and looks 😀

I’ve always wanted to know.
Life must be so much easier.

Funny you said blonde hair/blue eyes/ pale skin, I have all of this (still ugly as shit though), because I always have found black hair, brown eyes and naturally tan skin to epitome of beauty, light coloring is really meh in my eyes.

Like a pp, I came to realise that being listened to was a result of my appearance. Not that I was taken seriously. There was a lot of assumptions around my intelligence level and I see that still happening. It's difficult to not get picked as a trophy girlfriend. I've given my DD'S the skills to overcome a lot of what I experienced. The progress of recognising sexism has helped. The harrasment and begging was intense. I even got street sexual harrasment with my children. I've been stalked and followed. Attitudes were different then, there was a lot of victim blaming. That made me stop being friendly towards men. Beauty is useful if you want to earn money via your looks, or land a man just for his income level, but not much else. Although I've had opportunities put my way because of my looks. But in today's world, I would have had them and more because of my intelligence.

Negging not begging, although I was offered money for sex a few times.

@AllAloneInThisHouse Its always the assumption that blonde hair is a classical beauty look, with blue eyes. I was always told when I was younger that I was lucky to have naturally blonde hair and blue eyes and that many would give their right arm for it etc etc.
But I think you need the right features to match.

’I’m like you in that I find dark hair and darker skin attractive, although I do like light coloured eyes on a man with dark hair.

I know someone who is truly stunning, like, she's so beautiful she stops people in the street. She's plagued with low self esteem and she's had to literally fight men off in the past because they think because she's beautiful that she's easy. I think id rather be myself because the only reason i can see to be beautiful is to like what you see in the mirror, but that's to do with self esteem and nothing to do with what you look like.

I have 2 friends that have the full package - beauty and amazing bodies! I'm being honest when I say I don't envy them. Every time we've been out together they get sooo much male attention. Like just walking down the street at 2pm on a Tuesday in jeans and a hoody, they'll have men beeping their horns, making flirty remarks etc. I would absolutely hate it. Both these friends are able to get into relationships very quickly but they never last (not because of their beauty, in each case it's personality factors). They're both single and don't want to be. I'm happier being me - average looking with a man who fell in love with my personality, not my body! Beauty fades but having a wonderful personality lasts a lifetime.

I’m average but when I was younger we sometimes had these conversations. I noticed that quite attractive people often considered themselves average (or claimed to) and quite average people often thought highly of themselves and said men kept staring at them when imo they weren’t.

I currently know one very very beautiful woman who gets a lot if attention from men and women. I envy her - and she’s very down to earth about it, no vanity but no false modesty either - but I sense that sometimes she gets tired of the constant compliments and feels she has to be polite.

Looking at photos of me in my teens I was very attractive but didn't realise it!
Now I'm 40s and largely invisible.

I was a beautiful young woman. Hated looking in the mirror, didn’t like people telling me.
knocking on now, happy in my skin at last 😊