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To feel so guilty /confused

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Rosebel · 08/06/2022 09:35

I actually know I am being unreasonable but would like some reassurance. Due to start a new job soon and am worried about my son.
He's nearly 2 (he will be 2 when I start) and until now I've only worked 3 mornings at week, one of those being a Saturday. Now I will be doing 4 long days (8 to 6) and he'll be coming to a new nursery with me 3 days a week.
Firstly I'm not sure how he'll cope with 3 long days and worry about him settling.
Secondly I'm going to miss him so much. I can't do less days as I struggled to get them to agree to 4. I still think if him as my baby and think am I being selfish sticking him in nursery 3 days a week?
Trouble is I hate the job I do now and this new job is what I really want but my baby is already growing up fast am I really going to regret not spending more time with him.
I will have one day off in the week, plus weekends and my DD (temporarily) will have him one day a week. In September he'll either start doing 4 long days or DH will do a 4 day week.
My husband says that I will get used to it and I'm lucky to have 3 full days with DS.
Do you think I'll regret missing out on time with him? Am I being selfish (unreasonable) to get a job I love at the cost of my son having to change routine?

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JogOnJimmy · 08/06/2022 09:39

Not at all. Social skills are so important for children to learn at a young age. You are giving them a head start if you look at it another way
Best of luck in your new job!

WhenIgrowolder · 08/06/2022 16:33

No, go for it. I always worked when my kids were young and they turned out well with a good work ethic.

He will probably love the nursery. You are not being selfish at all.

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