I have been with my girlfriend for 15 months. On the whole things have been incredible, she’s everything I’ve wanted in a girl and she’s so lovely and caring (and hot!). She is going to move into my flat soon.
She’s been struggling a bit recently and I really feel for her. She has a lot on her plate and has been diagnosed with OCD too. Sometimes time has been spent comforting her which is more than okay as she’s so supportive with me too.
However, I feel like I’m getting tired and don’t know if I’m being unreasonable. She’s very sensitive and recently she nit picks at me a lot, telling me I’m not doing XYZ enough. In fairness she’s had a point about some things where I may have been slacking, such as my communication, and I’m making an effort to try and improve on it. Things have been tough and my energy has gone on trying to make her feel better but I don’t know if I was being unreasonable yesterday.
So she’s moving into my flat and I spent the whole weekend tidying it. I then spent all of yesterday helping her disassemble her furniture. I wanted her to have the smoothest transition into my flat to make it easier for her. However, she was sat there just getting upset about reading our old texts and she feels like she’s “lost me”.
I sort of lost it and said I’m doing so much for her, she’s being way too clingy and it needs to stop now. I spent the whole day helping her. I also bought her flowers on my lunch and it made me so happy I bought them with a smile on my face.
But nothing seems good enough. I feel like half the time she doesn’t even want me in the room, she’s miserable when she sees me and I don’t make her happy anymore but I try my best.
However she’s right that I’ve not been myself, and my energy/spark probably has changed, and I do act different to normal. I said it’ll take time because I’ve been drained, and she got very upset. So who is being unreasonable here?