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Overeaction · 08/06/2022 03:02

Our relationship is generally good we usually get along very well although its not the best. I've been feeling like absolute rubbish lately and DP made some inappropriate comments about TV stars but quite seriously with no hint of it being a joke, I could be wrong but I felt as though he was rubbing it in my face during a difficult time. It made me question everything. Hes never done this before and it never crossed my mind that he would, generally he is an attentive person who I thought would be a lot more considerate. Hes never spoken to me in such a passionate way and I am actually his real partner. I told him I feel undermined and disrespected but he isn't being understanding about it at all and is taken aback by my unreasonableness. He was acting like it wasnt a big deal and is disturbed by my strong feelings. I lost it I told him I dont want to be with him anymore. I didn't really mean it. Maybe I over reacted due to already feeling like shit.He then said he doesnt see the friend ending problem, as if what what we had was a friendship. We were friends like any couple would be if that makes sense. He topped it off saying hes not the one for me and that ive got relationship issues and that he doesn't want to talk about it and has left for a bit and blocked my number. I'm off to bed now thinking time will heal. But WTF!

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Shedcity · 08/06/2022 03:07

Sooo it’s over
sounds like a lucky escape from a dead end friendship/relationship with someone happy to make you feel crap

youre adults I presume, so blocking is particularly immature

I’d say take a day or two to wallow.
then move right on.

Mothership4two · 08/06/2022 03:35

It doesn't sound like either of you came out of this particularly well.

Difficult to say YABU or YABNU as not enough info and would have to read between the lines. How long have you been together?

Aprilx · 08/06/2022 05:44

I didn’t really understand what happened or why you “lost it”. Was it because he made comments about TV stars?

But from what I gather you have told him you don’t want to be with him and he has told you the same. So it is over and yes time will heal.

girlmom21 · 08/06/2022 05:53

It's probably for the best to be honest.

Shoxfordian · 08/06/2022 06:03

It doesn’t seem like it was working out anyway really

Overeaction · 08/06/2022 12:29

Did I overreact

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MrszClaus · 08/06/2022 12:31

Overeaction · 08/06/2022 12:29

Did I overreact

You dumped your partner because they made comments about tv stars? I mean without any further information imo yes you have 🤷🏻‍♀️

Mally100 · 08/06/2022 12:35

I think you did overreact. If you say he is never like this then you know it's you. You are feeling insecure due to your own issues and took it out on him. If someone lost it at me over that, I would be ending it too.

TibetanTerrah · 08/06/2022 12:35

You've managed to write a lot of words without saying what actually happened. You had a silly argument, you ended it (but didn't mean it) then he said referred to your relationship as a "friendship"? Is that right?

Aprilx · 08/06/2022 12:37

Overeaction · 08/06/2022 12:29

Did I overreact

You would need to say what happened.

Mytoddlerisamazing · 08/06/2022 12:37

It's impossible to to say whether you over reacted without knowing exactly what he said.

GrazingSheep · 08/06/2022 12:37

You told him you didn’t want to be with him any more. And he left.

WishILivedInThrushGreen · 08/06/2022 16:06

Based on what you've said, yes, you overreacted.
However you said that you didn't want to be with him anymore and he has agreed.

Maybe this was his chance to end it with you.

Not sure that you can come back from this.

Mangogogogo · 08/06/2022 18:16

In the nicest possible way I think he used the opportunity to dash. You sound a littttle too much

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