I don't think I was advising the OP to bankrupt herself whatsoever.
What I was saying, is that I just don't buy the blanket 'we can't get on the property ladder'.
Where there are a couple who are both working, and have some degree of deposit saved, it is eminently possible to get on the property ladder in this country. Although that may very well not be the type of property you'd like, in the condition that you'd like, in the location that you like.
People also forget that the term property ladder implies 'moving up'. So if you want the off-road parking, garden, extra bedroom or whatever, you often have to plan for this and do it by moving from one property to another. Which is why I say to make a 5-year plan... OK, so don't move every year (in any case stamp duty may put paid to that). But over time, you need to increase the value of what you have, improve your equity and keep going.
Oh and throw in a shitload of commuting, borrowing, trying to get promotions, and renovating crap properties. I know, I've done it.
I live in a lovely house in a lovely area. Hasn't always been like this. But there are lots of people who wouldn't consider where we live because it's 'not good enough' in some way.