How often do you have people in your house?

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Sometimes I feel like inviting people over for a social but I always get nervous that I am the host or that they won't go home once I've had enough.

I probably have someone round once every other month.

hardly ever. This is my space to just be me, (and DH and DC of course) I don't want people coming in my bubble!

Once since the beginning of lockdown

For socialising probably only once or twice a month. We tend to go to our families’ houses as they are bigger and with friends we sometimes have people here, sometimes go out to pub/restaurant. My friends in particular don’t live nearby so it only tends to be DP’s friends who come over.

Rarely as we have the smallest house out of our friends bit and we have the oldest children so we are at teen and 10 year old stage and friends have toddlers and infants who have same interests i.w toys and TV shows. We regularly go around to others homes but I think they find it easier as baby toys and bedtimes can happen on time. That said, I noted people hinting at a party we went to on Thursday, some people we haven't seen for a bit suggesting we never see Goldenbear's DH's house so i have insisted to DH we have people over and get baby toys out of the garage and have a play area for the younger ones to play and not be under the feet of adults with hot food and drinks etc.

I don't really like it in the week as after work and school I want to chill out or sometimes need to log back in to work but I still try and accommodate DCs friends. I have noticed with my 15 year old we have become a bit of a house for all and that can be quite expensive with food, luckily his friends eat a variety of stuff and will eat curries and casseroles etc. However, I do wonder if my DS is ever going to be invited to one boy's house, out of the 4 good friends, the parents never offer and they have a big house, money and like me WFH.

Same.

Family most days, friends rarely as I tend to meet then out.

If you are scared they will stay, just give a heads up about leaving time. It doesn't have to be rude. Just ' fancy having lunch at mine? I will need to leave the house by 3pm but this should give us enough time to catch up', 'fancy a few drinks at mine tonight? I could do till 11pm as I need to wake up early tomorrow'

Weekly dinner dates with a close friend and maybe a few coffee & catch ups in between. We don't host family here though, my husband and I can't stand each other's parents

It's changed massively since covid. Hardly ever, now. I have even started tidying up spontaneously rather than blitzing it for guests.

I agree with giving them a finish time if that's what's worrying you, or picking a time with a natural end point like the hour before school pickup.

Hardly ever - we have a very anxious, territorial dog who really struggles with people other than us in the house. Only people who are very calm and confident around dogs get invited over as it's just too stressful all round otherwise. If we didn't have her we would have more visitors but probably not loads - I like friends coming over for dinner or staying overnight, less enamoured of family coming to stay for long spells!

We see friends most days, sometimes just for a cup of tea. Then about every 6 weeks we have them over for a meal and drinks, some stay over. We go to their houses and go out for meals, concerts and other stuff like that in between. Our family all live quite far away so we see them every 3/4 months, usually at our house and they stay for a few days.

Where did they all sleep?

Cleaner comes weekly, DP 3 or 4 times per week, my sister roughly once per month.. other than that no one comes in my house!

Never. The house has been ruined by my DD and she would have a meltdown anyway.

Some of these posts are so depressing.

Luckily each to their own….

Why is it depressing that some people are different from you?

I don't like having people over particularly, but I'm more than happy to meet outdoors with the dogs, or go out for coffee/cake/lunch/drinks instead.

As little as is humanly possible. We once invited some friends for Sunday dinner and they stayed eight hours. This then happened again with some other friends. I’m not even kidding. Never again.

I hear you x

Never, only very close family. My home is my castle and there are sharks in that there moat!

Can't remember the last time we had friends/family in the house to be honest. Would have been pre-covid. We've been shielding for the past 2 years (OH has cancer and ongoing chemotherapy) so we need a "safe space".

We used to have friends over all of the time, now dc are teens and are always out not as often. We meet friends and go out a lot for dinner and drinks. I probably have friends over once a month for dinner, much more often mid summer, birthdays and Christmas. I am not a good cook so prefer to go out and relax! Love having drinks parties though but too tired to do one so far this year.
Family visit a few times a year, and most of us now prefer to be out - with live music since we spent so much time looking at the four walls over the pandemic.

It’s not depressing that some people are different from me - I said, luckily each to their own.

I find the idea of ‘not being able to stand’ having people over, or ‘hating’ being invited to people’s places very depressing, yes.

It’s a discussion forum - the question has been posed. People are answering.

We once invited some friends for Sunday dinner and they stayed eight hours

That is normal here, and a compliment to your cooking and company!

Same!!