to think DH night feed help is pointless?

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I was exhausted yesterday had about 3 hours sleep in total so asked DH to do feeds. Our bed is pushed up to the wall so I thought I would go in the corner tonight. Anyway I had to wake DH up at every feed as he was sleeping through the baby screaming for ages. I felt like getting up but I didn't want to give in so easy. So I ended up still sat up with the baby in the night whilst he made a bottle but then he did feed him and change him. Now somehow I've ended up feeding again when I should be sleeping.

DH thinks I should be grateful that I got a few hours extra disturbed sleep but in all honestly it was probably easier just to get up myself and do it instead of having to keep shaking DH and listening to baby crying.

AIBU? I would have liked a proper rest like what he has every night.

Yanbu! Did he actually manage to sleep through though? My dh could also sleep through babies crying and it was infuriating. In the end we decided that he I would go to bed early and he would do 11pm feed and I would do the night feed. That way I got some unbroken sleep.

Unfortunately as mother's we're tuned in to our babies cries and tend to stir more easily. The best thing as has been suggested is to get him to do the last feed before he goes to bed, and you go up at 9pm or sonething so you have a 5 hour stretch. Or sleep in a different room to him and baby and put ear plugs in.

Maybe say in another room, him knowing you're there defaults back you you - because he knows he can 'switch off' with you there.