My husband and I have one child together. He decided he wanted no more and that has been his steadfast stance since. I would have liked more but I have been trying to accept his decision and just live our lives with our beautiful son.
Anyway, he's just said to me when we were discussing contraception options (I mentioned the snip for him) that what if we want another child some day and I was completely thrown. He has never ever ever once hinted his stance may not be as set in stone as he made out and now he's saying 'maybe' in 5 years or something he might feel differently who knows 'never say never' but he won't discuss it further.
Am I just expecting way too much because I'm actually a bit pissed off. I can't explain how sure he was that he absolutely didn't want another, I did but I've been trying to come to terms with that and had started to get over it and move on from the thought of ever having more DC and now he's just thrown a curve ball of a 'maybe we can discuss it in 5 years, may feel the same, may not' at me.
I'd rather him of just kept that to himself and then if he ever felt ready for another, discussed it with me then.
I can already feel myself getting my hopes up that he may change his mind in 5 years. I wish he'd just say no or yes but in 5 years if that makes sense? I totally appreciate things may change which make it not feasible in however many years to have another I obviously accept that possibility but I just feel so shit about so half arsed 'maybe, maybe not, who knows' like he's toying with me?
Feel free to give me a kick up the arse and tell me I'm being silly!