18 months ago I went through a break up that, with no exaggeration nearly killed me. It was bookended by 2 really traumatic bereavements and at times, I thought I would rather not be here anymore. I got 'straight back on the horse' and did some internet dating after about 7 months and saw someone casually and briefly- this ended in March. Since then, I have poddled about on the apps again- I have a real issue with feeling 'not good enough' if I do not have a relationship. At other times in my life, I have been confident and have relished being single but for some reason this time, I am struggling to get back to that. I am starting to feel the stirrings of not wanting to bother with the apps and to just concentrate on myself but that feels scary- any of you wise ones recognise this feeling and have any advice? I am stuck in a terrible trap at the moment of feeling like I have no time to do things I like but then wasting time on my phone- am also perimenopausal so that doesn't help- anyone got any ideas of how I fall back in love with my life and embrace being single?