Sick of being seen as the sweet and adorable one

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I know there's nothing bad about it but it does annoy me sometimes. There are women at work or at my partner's work, and they're mostly almost a decade younger than me for a start, but a couple of them have said stuff like, "aww bless her", "isn't she cute" "she's adorable"and stuff that's just really patronising. Or sometimes when I see them they'll literally speak to me like I'm a baby.
Apart from very brief encounters they don't know me at all so I don't know what I've done to warrant this.

Most of them smoke, drink and do drugs, I do none of those things that they again find 'cute'.
I am quiet, softly spoken and apparently look young for my age, but I feel patronised by stuff like this.

There's more to me as a person, I'm not some sort of puppy. I'm trying to work on body language and tone of voice as confidence can go a long way.
Any other tips?

One of them just simply couldn't believe that I didn't drink at all and asked my partner, "What?! She doesn't drink?! So only you get drunk?!" Wow newsflash, some people don't drink

Do you think you might have a partner problem? Who exactly is giving them this view of you? What is he getting out of it?

That’s nothing to do with being “adorable” though, and it’s standard stuff I’ve had MH whole life (into my 50s…) about not drinking.

Why is he talking about you to women at his work and reporting back? Weird!

Next time any of them say anything like " aww isn't she cute!" just give them a hard stare until they realise that they sound like idiots. Who says things like that about a grown woman? They sound slightly deranged. Make sure you speak your mind around them, make eye contact when you talk to them and voice opinions even when you think they might not be the most popular ones. I say what I want and don't care what people think of me, and am quite assertive. Sounds like you are also quite sure of who you are but maybe you aren't clearly communicating that when you are with others. They are being incredibly patronising and it sounds like they assume you like being spoken to like that.

Fake it. Eventually it becomes who you are if you fake it for long enough
People think I'm really confident and I'm a anxious wreck who worries I've said/done the wrong thing/upset someone etc

i Remember doing a course which suggested (correct me if I’m wrong it was a while ago) 65% is body language, 25% is tone and only 10% is the content of what you say.
The first thing would be to take up space when you enter a room, your stride comfortable but purposeful, make eye contact and smile. The most powerful thing I have found is challenging people if they talk over you or say something condescending - this is normally with a look and an uncomfortable silence (being comfortable in a silence when others are not is very powerful)