To not want to do all the work behind the scenes for this?

[BrokenToy]

Basically I run an event at work every week; it’s gaining momentum week on week and I enjoy it but it costs me a lot in terms of time and effort and the reward is actually delivering it. It makes the business a bit of money but not enough for any extra pay for me so for now it’s a labour of love that I only do because I enjoy it.

I can’t run it this week on the usual day as I’m away (also for work). I’ve told all the attendees. No drama. I ran an extra event yesterday and vaguely linked it to the Jubilee; it was fun but not well attended.

Here’s the AIBU. One of the attendees yesterday who does some other work for us has decided they will run it as usual on the day this week. Great! Except. They still want me to provide all the materials, content and equipment. I would usually have prepared everything by now for this week so this would involve me spending today (my day off) preparing. And. They have gone on and on last night to me and their friends about how great they are going to be, what a huge crowd they will draw, how amazing it COULD be blah blah blah. Basically saying they will do a much better job than I do. Absolutely tone deaf.

So AIBU to say have at it, but no I’m not creating it for you to have all the glory for and no you can’t use my stuff. I’m actually quite upset but this person does have form for being a bit of a bulldozer.

I am talking upwards of three hours AT LEAST to compile the materials etc, there’s actually no way I’m doing it but this person is seriously expecting me to put it together and email it over to them for them to deliver (the fun bit!) for no pay and by the sounds of it no acknowledgment, while they take the glory.

I’m actually fucking furious that this has even been put on the table and feel like withdrawing my services for the whole thing.

‘I’m not in work today so I won’t be able to prepare anything in advance for you. If you decide you want to go ahead, I generally do xyz. Hope it goes well!’

Yep this, wish them well and let them crack on.

YANBU.
I would send her a message and tell her if she's running the event she needs to tldo the prep as well.....
You dont want her to leave it to the last minute and then when she doesn't have the materials for her to tell people in your absence that 'oh brokentoy was meant to have done this....' etc....

I think it's very important that you do nothing!

Let ms braggy do the work she wants to get the praise for.

She wants you to do the work so she can tell people she did a better job than you 🤣

No, if she wants to run it she needs to organise it. End of.

Is it a quiz?

I think the response above is good.

Yep, perfect. And enjoy your day off!

This, but make it clear to others you've told them, as they sound the type to then say @BrokenToy did XYZ so we couldn't do the event and do a sad face!

Just reply: “Lol.”

I can’t get past you earn money for your employer by volunteering your time and effort outwith work and you don’t get paid for it, do it for love. Why can’t you just pocket the money? Or doing for free or out of work hours?

“LOL, The reason I can’t do it this time is because I am taking a break from the considerable prep period, which is at least as much work as the event itself! Good luck!”

Of course you aren't BU. She can do it herself if she wants to run it.

I agree with others. Do not supply anything and make sure others know so she doesn't make you look awful. 'Sorry not in work today and don't have capacity as prior commitments. Hope it goes well.'

The message above is perfect. Please don't even think about spending 3 hours of your day off doing this!!

‘Sounds great! I’m sure you’ll be brilliant. I’ve got no time to prep the materials, though, it’s my day off and I’ve got no time to spare, so if you do want to run it you’ll need to do X, Y, Z. Takes a while to get together as it’s a lot of work, just so you’re warned before you tell everyone it’s back on.’

Yes it’s a quiz.

So as you can imagine the work part is putting it together. Delivering it is fun and I either do it within my working hours or in my free time with a glass of wine as payment. I spend time at work compiling it.

I lose nothing by it not happening this week.

Im definitely not doing anything towards it but this person (man actually) unilaterally decided last night that he would be doing it this week oh and BrokenToy, you can email it all over to me, right? I sarcastically said sure I’ll spend my day off compiling it and he said Great, send it over when you’re done.

Ive messaged this morning and said I won’t be doing that but I’ll send the template and he said excellent, it won’t take him long to ‘smash one out’. Fucking have at it mate.

Brilliant - then if he does ‘smash one out’ you can tell him what an amazing job you hear he did and maybe he’d like to keep doing the prep work for you

Such a tosser, let him hang himself.

I can't get over that anyone spends hours every week preparing content for a quiz, some of which has to be done outside your working hours.

Beyond today, you need to stop doing this silly task.

Im definitely not doing anything towards it but this person (man actually) unilaterally decided last night that he would be doing it this week oh and BrokenToy, you can email it all over to me, right? I sarcastically said sure I’ll spend my day off compiling it and he said Great, send it over when you’re done.

Ive messaged this morning and said I won’t be doing that but I’ll send the template and he said excellent, it won’t take him long to ‘smash one out’. Fucking have at it mate.

Haha, that’s brilliant. What a twat. If you hear how it all panned out, please let us know. I suspect he’ll start it, realise how much work it is then abandon it with a lame excuse.

This. You aren't at work today and therefore can't be expected to do the stuff required. This response is polite but factual. No one can argue with it or find it unhelpful or cantankerous. Smile sweetly and drop it from your mind. Enjoy your day off and the fact that you are away for the 'do' they are organising. Don't be a martyr. Nobody will care and the other person will take credit for your work. If they actually do the work required and their thing is different, but as much fun as your usual thing, then that's great. If it's better, that's great. If it doesn't happen because they realise how much work it is then that's good too.

I would totally message all participants saying 'x has taken on the whole thing this week, question setting and all - thanks for giving up your free time x, have fine everyone and I'll see you next week!'

This too. Tie him up with his own pompous rope. Quizzes take hours of work .

Oh I’d do this too!

Ive messaged this morning and said I won’t be doing that but I’ll send the template and he said excellent, it won’t take him long to ‘smash one out’. Fucking have at it mate.

This has made me properly LOL. What an absolute tool he is.