We've just come back from a holiday in and we will be going back again in the summer holidays. We part own a house (nothing fancy) with my in-laws and B-I-L. We've already been away with them there once this year and we're due to go away with the in-laws another 3 times in the coming months along with B-I-L.
I kind of feel that this is already a lot (especially as I've not been away with my parents since before lockdown), but they've now told my husband that they're expecting an invite to come along for a few days when we go for a week in the summer holidays (as they never go away with just us but do go away with b-i-l). I was about to suggest to my husband that we should invite my parents along for a few days as it will be my mum's 65th birthday, but put it off as know he'd rather it just be us and the kids.
I've had a big argument with my husband this evening because I've said I don't want them to come as feel like we're going away with them enough (my m-i-l has also always been unpleasant to me, so it's always an uneasy time) and that we should invite my parents. He said that wanting to invite my parents is a lie to get out of inviting his parents which isn't true, but yes, would prefer not to have to have them there. He has now said if my mum's birthday is so important we should cancel the holiday completely and he'll tell his parents he couldn't get the time off work. So my options are, go away on my mums birthday and not invite her and have his family instead, or not go at all and face telling my kids that! Apparently I've put him in an impossible position.
I was hoping to get other options on this as he's still not speaking to me and he's making me feel unreasonable.