I don’t know what the point is for this. I’m just feeling down and anxious after another shite visit off mil. I actually think I hate her! I know that’s strong ,but I don’t like anything about her anymore and if I never saw her again, I’d not care! The feeling maybe mutual, I’d guess it is probably.
she’s selfish immature and passive aggressive she digs constantly but on a very clever snide way,
problem is she dotes on gc and dh and dh can see the error of her ways but says she is lonely and can’t help it and I should just ignore it like he does!
she’s ruined every Xmas since we’ve been together ,but we have no choice apparently, as she has nowhere else to be.
She hints at staying over at our house constantly and often invites herself over short notice ,with silly excuses such
” as I left something I desperately need for tomorrow!” Luckily dh knows I won’t have her sleeping over and ignores her requests. he either doesn’t answer or changes the subject. He is part of the problem ,as he never says no, She hates the word no, and partly the reason ,that she hates me as I won’t just always agree with .
I am due another child and despite seeming not happy, she already stated I’ll come over the day after to help
except her help after my first was to take my days old bf baby and try to bottle feed without my knowledge ,while I was having a nap and to then to say over and over ,he’s a grandma and daddy’s boy and even went further to say I was just a food source for him basically!! I just feel like she’s really nasty and I am sick of being upset by her.
any suggestions on how to feel less stressed and anxious about her visits? and the awful comments? I have already decided I won’t be seeing her straight after the next baby is born , as I struggled massively last time with pnd and honestly think she made it all worse. I wish my dh had more of a backbone with her but he obviously cares and loves her so I know I have to put up with her for his sake and he does agree with me on a lot of issues and has reduced her contact to less infrequent visits and no overnight stays anymore. She has tried to turn him against me too by waiting for me to be out of earshot then saying that I am mean to her and I have given her a mouthful! (Which I hadn’t btw just told her I didn’t appreciate her snide comments in front of the children etc) anyway he just basically ignored her and said to try ignore her too, as she’s getting worse and being old and lonely was making her act worse! She then spent the rest of that visit ignoring both of us and then when she left , she once again, said bye to everyone except for me.
there’s so much more but I’ve written enough I think!
just what the heck can I do!! My children are young and baby with be bf , so letting them visit her without me will be tricky , as she’s nearly an hour and half away.