Seeing Friends

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I understand a lot of Mumsnetters don't drink and don't attend pubs.

We are by no means alcoholics but we have lots of Friends and are very popular so do meet up with Friends in a pub maybe twice or three times a month.

How do other people see Friends?

My friend and I all train Brazilian juijitsu so basically we socialise by choking each other

Meet at bbqs, go out for meals as a group if we are with the husbands. If it's just us girls we go to each other's houses in the evenings, take turns on the house, and drink coffee/tea.

I don't drink, just can't be arsed with health implications, increase in cancers etc, hangovers etc. It's overrated crap.

I can have a cracking night with just good company.

I don't understand why people who don't drink think they are somehow superior.

I don't understand why people need to have alcohol to have a good time.

Pubs sell soft drinks too.

I don't think I'm superior. I'm on medication so I can't drink.

That's for your upsetting comment.

Going out for drinks with 'Friends' is normal (even on MN). Going out and doing other things with 'Friends' is equally normal. What's with the capital 'F' on 'Friends'? And what's with the weird question?

How could it be upsetting when you don't understand why people need to drink to have a good time?

For the last month, here is how I have seen friends. No alcohol involved

• met up for lunch with one friend and her baby in a local cafe
• met up for a play date with our kids in a local park
• out for dinner with another group of friends
• visited another couple and sat in the garden drinking soft drinks while the kids played
• girls night at another house where we sat and gossiped and had a takeaway
• afternoon tea for a friends birthday
• a couple of old friends stayed with us for the weekend, we went out for walks with the dogs, out for lunch, sat and gossiped while watching 90s music. Included a lot of dancing

I enjoy seeing friends in a pub but never do it as we have young kids and no babysitters.

So friends tend to come to ours or we go somewhere child friendly in the day time.