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A street party CF's one

61 replies

Beamish22 · 04/06/2022 17:53

Would you say that a street party is for people from the street? Not anyone that the residents feel like inviting?
We ended up hosting the local street party (tiny village really) in our garden yesterday. The person organising was very thorough, made sure everything was planned to a T and had a list of the locals who said they were coming. People signed up to bring various bits of food and it was bring your own drinks.
On the day we locked the main gate across the drive after a couple of cars had come in belonging to people doing the organisation stuff, leaving a small side gate for people to walk through.
I missed the action but one local couple arrived with 6 visitors from out of the area, 4 adults two children. They drew attention to themselves by demanding gates open so they could bring 2 cars in and the organiser went down to see them. She tells me that she pointed out that they had brought extra people, a small container of sausage rolls wouldn't cut it. Asked them to go back and pick up more food (told them what was needed LOL!). Told them to park elsewhere and walk back. Apparently there was some muttering but off they went... and didn't come back.
One person at the event approached me and thinks that this was unreasonable, either me or my partner should have been asked before sending them away. I'm fine with it, I'd have probably done the same.

(Maybe others have some jubilee CF stories)...

OP posts:
Hawkins001 · 04/06/2022 19:31

Some of these, omg

Persephoned · 04/06/2022 19:37

I don’t think YABU…because it was a garden party for the neighbours with private access. If it was a street party then yes, YABU - I agree with the post above, all welcome and everyone asked to bring something/contribute but it’s a community event for the street outside people’s front doors and you don’t police entry depending on how many sausage rolls someone is carrying 😂Glad you had a good event OP🙂

Jaxhog · 04/06/2022 19:39

Hawkins001 · 04/06/2022 19:31

Some of these, omg

Err, yes you do, if they then expect to eat the food other people have brought!

Newestname002 · 04/06/2022 19:41

BotterMon · 04/06/2022 18:49

What a fantastic organiser. Handler of CFs of the highest order.

Yep this is great to see. Is she available to run as Prime Minister in the not too distant future?? 🌹

orwellwasright · 04/06/2022 19:48

What I love most about these sort of community events is the squabbling about who is and isn't invited and the sheer AUDACITY of her from no. 27 eating more sausages than allocated and them from no. 16 daring to bring along their daughter and son-in-law and those ALCOHOLIC fuckers from no. 13 drinking more wine than was budgeted for and blah fucking tedious whining petty minded blah.

JacquelineCarlyle · 04/06/2022 19:48

I think she did brilliantly- well done to your neighbour! Glad you all had fun!

dapsnotplimsolls · 04/06/2022 19:55

Newestname002 · 04/06/2022 19:41

Yep this is great to see. Is she available to run as Prime Minister in the not too distant future?? 🌹

I agree - if she's not on the local council/running for Mayor - why not?!

ThinWomansBrain · 04/06/2022 19:56

They should've contributed an MN chicken🍗

user1494050295 · 04/06/2022 20:03

Taking strength from your neighbour. Ours is tomorrow 60 adults and 30 kids. Anyone who turns up with out food or drink can fuck off. Had a couple of people say “oh but we have been away”. So what. There are ten supermarkets on the doorstep. Now fingers crossed for the weather

mrsfoof · 04/06/2022 20:19

Is the organiser / gatekeeper Jackie Weaver by any chance? She sounds awesome!

TheHateIsNotGood · 04/06/2022 20:39

The demands regarding the 'parking arrangements' would have dissipated any understanding I may have had about 'sharing and goodwill'.

I luvs your Bouncer Neighbour....

SpottedOnMN · 04/06/2022 21:16

I was an interloper at my sister’s street party the other day. But I’m friends with four other families in the street, I arrived early to set up, took a popular dish to share and chipped in to the kitty. And helped tidy up afterwards.

Beamish22 · 05/06/2022 07:14

I must suggest a career as Prime Minister, or at the least Parish Council Clerk to my neighbour! Grin
Good luck to everyone who has a party today, hope the weather is kind.

OP posts:
saleorbouy · 05/06/2022 07:54

Of only the guests had arrived with a cooked mumsnet chicken!

CuriousCatfish · 05/06/2022 08:07

I'm glad I don't live in a tiny village.

StridTheKiller · 05/06/2022 08:08

Your party organiser is awesome OP. She must host a Dealing With Cheeky Fuckers masterclass on Mumsnet.

WooNoodle · 05/06/2022 08:12

Absolutely brilliant way to deal with it.

Mummyoflittledragon · 05/06/2022 08:28

The organiser did a superb job by the sound of it. In your shoes and having hosted a lot of parties, I wouldn’t want anyone you’d not approved to come in. Was your house locked or did you let people use your loo?

Flatandhappy · 05/06/2022 08:35

I love hearing about people dealing well with CFs as half of MN seem to lack a backbone. Glad you had fun.

tootiredtoocare · 05/06/2022 08:51

But that's not a street party, it's a garden party. So, yeah, you get to turn people away.

FirewomanSam · 05/06/2022 08:54

Your neighbour is my hero! Perfectly handled.

My parents’ street had a street party a few years ago and we went to stay with them for the weekend. My parents were among the organisers and we were given various jobs to do to help set up. While setting out tables etc we had SO many rude entitled neighbours coming out of their houses to ask us questions: why isn’t the party starting earlier? why aren’t we having such-and-such, my friend’s street in the next village are having a party and theirs is having that? why are you putting the tables there? etc etc etc. It was maddening because a) we weren’t even the organisers, we were just doing the jobs we’d been given and b) if you have so many bloody opinions about how the party should be organised then why don’t you actually help organise it! And of course they were then the same people who turned up empty handed or contributed a couple of bags of crisps and then expected to feast on what everyone else had brought.

Bednobsbroomsticks · 05/06/2022 08:59

What are cfs?

WooNoodle · 05/06/2022 09:02

Bednobsbroomsticks · 05/06/2022 08:59

What are cfs?

Cheeky Fucker(s)

blameitonthecaffeine · 05/06/2022 09:18

If it actually was a street party, I'd think you were being unreasonable. Street parties are for the whole community including their guests imo.

But it was a private party in your garden with advance invites so YANBU at all.

purpledagger · 05/06/2022 09:19

My area is one that gets talked about on MN as an area to be avoided at all costs. We had our street party and it was awesome. We had no CFery at all. Everyone donated generously and we ended up with way too much food.