sex or companionship

[CJ1000]

ive been with my man for a while, but we have no sex life or any passion. We are affectionate and love being together. How important is sex in a relationship? Can i really live without it for the joy of companionship?
Vies and advice sought!

Entirely up to you.

Some will tell you that sex is the most important part of a relationship.
We went through periods of no sex, I'm sure many do, just pressure of everyday life. No time to be lovers just every moment being mum and dad and working

We're not that active now, both older and OH has health problems, just glad he's still here.

Like you describe we still have a lot of affection and are happy together. Hold hands, cuddle on the sofa etc (bit like teenagers worried mum and dad will walk in). Wouldn't be without him.

Have you tried asking if there's an issue causing the lack of passion? It can be embarrassing for him to face but surely he can talk to you about it or the doctor.

Lots more context needed. If you are older and content to compromise then fine, maybe.

If you are younger, have a healthy libido and want a family then it’s a recipe for disaster.

we are both in our 20s. not exactly looking for a family at the moment (obviously, lol!).

If you're only in your 20's and sex life was ok in the past I'd suspect something was up. You should be on here complaining that he wants it too often at your age. Talk to him about it, is he depressed about something, a physical issue? Mumsnet is a rubbish place for an answer if you actually care about him.

Do you want more sex?

At your age a low sex relationship wouldn’t be typical I don’t think.

Have you ever had sex with him?

How important is sex and passion to you? That’s what really matters.

I wouldn’t want the kind of relationship you’re describing and I’m in my 40s. If he’s like this in your 20s it’s incredibly unlikely that he’s going to change.

I would be concerned that he was gay and closeted and you were potentially setting yourself up for being left when he decides he has to be his true self etc.

Unless it is you that is driving the lack of sex?

i have tried to initiate it a few times but he just doesnt show interest and prefers cuddles. We had a good sex life for the first few months.

Due to working and having 4 kids, myself and my husband haven't had sex this year, I love him, he loves me and to us it's not important. But for many people it is and only the couple involved can decide. If you're both happy then that's all that matters

It would only work if you're both happy with it. Or maybe if there was a significant reason why one partner couldn't have sex and you were both willing to work through it, it could be worth saving. If it's a matter of one person with no interest in sex, putting an end to their partner's sex life, I don't think that's acceptable.