Sorry boring subject but I need some advice. We live in a small village and DD is 10 and has a group of friends that she has known since preschool. Over the past 2 years or so it’s become apparent that a group of parents regularly get together and socialise at each other’s houses bringing the kids with them. We’ve been invited to the odd gathering but only a couple. It’s really beginning to affect DD as she’s now at the age where she knows she’s missing out on seeing her friends out of school. It’s complicated as we’re currently renovating our house and staying with MIL so having gatherings and play dates at hers or on a building site isn’t really feasible. We had a party in the autumn where we invited the whole year which was well received.
A lot of the mums have a separate WhatsApp group to the main chat and meet regularly to go to the pub, weekends away etc and I’ve never seen an invite. I don’t really know what I’ve done to be excluded and when I see them out at school etc I don’t really want to engage with them as clearly there is a thought process behind not including me and I wonder what they’re saying about me. I’m not the only mum who doesn’t get involved but DD is the only one from her group of friends who misses out.
I’m trying really hard to be grown up and pretend it doesn’t hurt but it does.