Please vote if you’ve seen This is Us……

[Acronymmuch]

I know This Is Us is some saccharine American bullshit but I’m a little obsessed and would really would like to know if love like Jack & Rebecca’s exists? Love with passion and unfailing faith in your partner that endures, with the sort of intensity they have, through all the ups and downs..beyond the honeymooon period, pregnancy, early childhood years, teenage years etc.
Do you know anyone with a relationship like Jack and Rebecca’s who’ve been married for 20 years?
YABU - of course it exists, I know plenty of couples like this. In fact people probably refer to me & my partner as Jack & Rebecca
YANBU - This type of love that endures long term and is still as passionate and single-minded as theirs can only be fictional and anyone who says otherwise is lying

Isn't the whole point of the whole show that Jack's death means they all look back on him as if he were perfect. He wasn't but they all view him that way and it influences their lives forever.

Give me Rebecca and Miguel's love any day - over Jack's.

A love that endures through age and infirmity.

Also agree the point of the story is that Rebecca and the big 3 view Jack as this Saint and their perfect relationship because he died young and suddenly. Rebecca and the big 3 look back with total rose tinted glasses.

I’m not freaking out…that’s not what this post is about. In a reply to lots of replies I said ‘WHEN I freak out’ which of course I do sometimes. I know lots of people who do.. perhaps not you, as I recognise everyone is different. Mumsnet is all about canvassing opinions, that’s why I posted..A genuine wondering how many people know someone with a relationship like the fictional one in this is us…….

Again sorry..that was replying to @JulesRimetStillGleaming

is there a way to reply to a specific post?

I’ve been rewatching the series from the beginning and I’m not sure that, had he lived, Jack and Rebecca would have lasted that much longer! He's secretive, jealous, controlling when she tries to start singing again, he definitely has a saviour/martyr complex. He undermines her with the kids and does the Disney Dad thing more often than not.

The Miguel story is a much better love story. They try to stay apart for the sake of what the children and 'society' will think but they can't stay apart. He nurses her through a very difficult illness and when she's struggling to remember anything, it's him that she calls out for to calm her.

The worst bit of the train scene is that she has to walk past him to be with Jack. So unfair given everything Miguel did for her.

Really interesting to hear peoples take on Jack & Rebecca and their relationship and the rose tinted effect. @daisym00n yes I get you with his jealousy and secrecy..Elements of controlling behaviour for sure. What’s the Disney dad thing?

Have you finished it?
i think by the end it’s pretty clear that her relationship with jack wasn’t as spectacular as first thought.

there is no fucking way on earth Jack would have cared for her throughout her illness like miggy did

This Punched me in the gut too, but it’s Showing the awful nature of the disease. She doesn’t remember him as anything but jacks mate from years ago

my parents and lots of there friends are like this. my grandparents were too

also he is so handsome so that probably helped!!!

And yet he got THIRTY SECONDS on the train!

They we’re together longer than she was with Jack!

@Mangogogogo she doesn’t have dementia on the train.

I have more than one set of very good friends like this. Married since teens/early 20's, still very lovey dovey with each other. Have never been anywhere near considering separating. I think relationships like Jack and Rebecca's are possible.

Yes! I’d forgive a lot of shit if I were married to Milo Ventimiglio!

My relationship with my XP lasted 9 years and it was very similar to Jack and Rebecca in that there was a lot of passion all the way through, some big ups and downs, some wobbles, some massive flaws (on both sides). The end of the relationship felt like a death tbh because of the way it happened, and he felt the same and has grieved the loss as much as I have.

We’ve recently reconnected accidentally after many months apart and it’s like being hit by lightning, my whole body is wired, I feel sick, that sense that he’s “my person” hasn’t gone away. I can imagine that at the end of my life he’s the one at the end of my train, no matter what happens between now and then 😢

I was just starting to date other people and was hoping to find a steady, sensible more “Miguel” type of love if I’m lucky. And he was dating again too, but if we continue on our separate paths there’s a feeling that the next person will be living in the shadow of this flawed but utterly magnetic connection that we have.

But she does. It’s her younger body of course, but the fact that she’s seeing/remembering her children as adults and the hand squeeze bit shows that this is her now. I imagine that’s why Kyle wasn’t featured, as she didn’t have any solid memories of him, although I would have loved Jack to mention him when she got to the end.

i Don’t mean to be rude at all but you really need to rewatch that episode

What was the biggest challenge for you in calibrating your performance in this episode?

Because we got to live in a world where Rebecca was at her most cognizant, I feel like she was at a chapter of her life where she maybe felt like she was firing on all cylinders. It was nice to live in that world again, because for the last season and a half, we weren't really in this world anymore.

@Acronymmuch I just mean that although Rebecca is the one who mostly cares for the Big 3 as a SAHM (Jack goes on secret visits to his brother, comes home late because he's drinking), because he does the fun things like Pilgrim Jack and Glitter fights, they think he was some amazing Dad and Kevin and Kate basically blame Rebecca for their alcoholism and their weight. #teammiguel

I've been with my husband over 25 years and I think 99.999999999 % of that has been amazing and there are no need for the ups and downs that Jack and Rebecca faced which were of Jack's making.

I love the show though!