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Stop me FB posting please MN!

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Jumpking · 03/06/2022 13:05

Background:

I married 20 years. I discovered ex camming and having affairs 2 years ago. Marriage ended-part of the reason being he "fell in love" with one of his camming friends abroad after 3 weeks mutual wanking.

He's visited her a few times. She's not been over here.

Ex and I have 2 teens together. He sees 1 for about 4 hours a week, doesn't see the other one at all because she doesn't want to see him. This is because he treated them like crap, forced me and them to move out of the family home into emergency accomodation.

I had to contact the police 3 times over his behaviour towards me...he got charged on every one. A neighbour called the police on him at his new house due to the way he was being abusive to his child in the street.

Today:

I'm on an internet wormhole due to Bank holiday boredom. I go on his FB account, not much to see. I link onto his foreign "girlfriend's" account and I find the picture I've posted here. Which made me laugh so much. My ex treated me, and his kids, like absolute shit and still does. Ex has liked/loved all her posts except this one. My ex MIL has liked a few of her posts, but not this one.

All through the divorce, I've tried to rise above. Refrained from social media posting against him. Not taken the bait when he's tried to goad me. Even thanked friends who've sent me his social media posts against me, but not said anything back against him. Bottom line is my kids might see something if I posted... They're too precious to risk that happening.

But this picture of hers...I really want to post things about what her "boyfriend" did to the mother of his children. What he's still doing.

I also want to say to her "You've been separated from your ex for at least 18 months I'm guessing. Have some dignity and stop posting publicly about him"

I know I won't, but boy do I want to let rip.

YABU - Why did you look, you stupid woman?
YANBU - Go on, let rip. You've been more than reasonable all through. Try to warn a fellow female what she's dealing with.

Stop me FB posting please MN!
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ShirleyPhallus · 03/06/2022 13:06

Literally nothing good can come of you posting anything. Step away from the keyboard.

theufointhe · 03/06/2022 13:15

the irony of you wanting to tell her to ‘have some dignity and stop posting publicly’ when you’re here looking for someone to OK you doing the same thing 🙄

PatAndFrank · 03/06/2022 13:19

I hate those type of post because they are so undignified, have some self worth and self respect. Stop going on his fbk stop longing for him.. he didn’t treat you well . Move on with head held up high. He really isn’t worth the consequences of your actions, the bitterness will eat you up unless you move on

JugglingJanuary · 03/06/2022 13:20

I'd be so tempted to post

'Not a big enough warning for you??'

but this is why I don't do SM, I find it easier not to read it than not to reply to it.

Just ignore the silly bitch.

katmarie · 03/06/2022 13:23

I totally get the urge to post something, I wanted to tear strips off my ex when I saw him posting BS on facebook after we split. But you know it won't make you feel better in the long run. Print out his picture, pin it to a dartboard and throw sharp things at it. Or make an exh - doll and stick pins in it. And rise above it.

The best revenge is a life well lived.

Mintyt · 03/06/2022 13:27

I would put being the child's mother I tend to agree

Jumpking · 03/06/2022 15:11

katmarie · 03/06/2022 13:23

I totally get the urge to post something, I wanted to tear strips off my ex when I saw him posting BS on facebook after we split. But you know it won't make you feel better in the long run. Print out his picture, pin it to a dartboard and throw sharp things at it. Or make an exh - doll and stick pins in it. And rise above it.

The best revenge is a life well lived.

I think it made me laugh more than anything.

The fact that it's the only post of hers that the ex hasn't liked/loved..surely that should tell her something. Her new "boyfriend" was, and is, probably far far worse towards me and his children than her ex is towards her and her daughter.

Can't be faffed to print out his pic or make a doll of ex. I've got better things to do with my time. Lunchtime BH wine made the internet wormhole happen. An anonymous Mumsnet rant is a great place to let rip. As I said in the OP, I'm not going to post anything on SM. He's not worth it. Good luck to them in their hilarious wanky "relationship"!

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Jumpking · 03/06/2022 15:12

Mintyt · 03/06/2022 13:27

I would put being the child's mother I tend to agree

Oooh...I like that! 🤣

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katmarie · 03/06/2022 15:20

I love mumsnet for an anonymous rant, I'm pretty sure i did the same when my ex was being a facebook wanker. Tragically for my ex, he's not managed to find himself a replacement who would be foolish enough to put up with his more revolting habits, so I only get him to laugh at.

Lunch time bank holiday wine for the win :) that alone sounds more fun than anything your loser ex might have going on :)

Jumpking · 03/06/2022 15:32

katmarie · 03/06/2022 15:20

I love mumsnet for an anonymous rant, I'm pretty sure i did the same when my ex was being a facebook wanker. Tragically for my ex, he's not managed to find himself a replacement who would be foolish enough to put up with his more revolting habits, so I only get him to laugh at.

Lunch time bank holiday wine for the win :) that alone sounds more fun than anything your loser ex might have going on :)

Cheers @katmarie 🍾🥂

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