AIBU to be unsure how to handle this situation? WWYD?

[HolidayHelp23]

I've been friends with someone for about 10 years. Were very close. I met DP (now fiance) a few years ago. Not long after that, she ghosted me. As in, I'd invited a group of friends round to my house and she just never turned up, stopped replying to messages etc. Eventually she did reply to one asking if everything was okay to tell me that if I didn't know, she wasn't going to tell me (paraphrasing, but something along those lines). A year later she got back in touch. She stopped short of apologising but she basically explained I hadn't done anything wrong, she'd been struggling with something, and she wanted to just forget it and move on. Which I did.

Fast forward to now. She met her first boyfriend last year. After being very vocal our whole friendship about having no time for girls who prioritise a boyfriend, she seems to only care about him. But still, we stayed in touch and things were fine. Until I got engaged around Christmas. She now seems to be totally ghosting me again, she's not messaging at all, she's hidden me on social media (I'm pretty sure). We have mutual friends so I know there's no good reason for lack of contact as she's in touch with them. Previously we'd message most days.

Now comes the issue. We booked a week away for an event this summer (booked in 2020 when we were really friendly and mid-lockdown) with her close friend and friend's boyfriend. It cost a significant amount of money. I now have no desire to go, she's barely speaking to me and clearly doesn't like me very much. For background, she's very competitive. Whenever something goes well for her (new job, new house, new bf) we all have to hear all about it, down to the details of salary etc. Whenever something goes well for me, she either rains on my parade or ghosts me. There's a definite pattern developed now, and tbh I'm happy to call the friendship quits. But how do I get out of this week away/get my money back? I sent a message a few weeks ago asking what the plan is and she said she was waiting to hear from other friend. I've heard nothing since. In the back of my mind I think she's waiting for me to pull out so she can take the new boyfriend. Tickets were booked as a group so AFAIK there's no way for me to cancel and get my money back but the ticket could be transferred to someone else in the group very easily.

Do I:

1. Go?
2. Pretend I want to go and hope she asks me for the ticket?
3. Be upfront and see if she wants to buy the ticket off me?
4. Pull out and lose the money?

It's very childish and manipulative, I know that. But that's how the whole friendship has been. I've outgrown it. However, I still feel really bad about pulling out at this late stage. If she can't find someone else to take the ticket she'd be a third wheel with this other couple. But she must surely know it would be really awkward if I go when she's not been speaking to me?

As previous posters said, but you
could say you have another (random) taker and unless they know someone else who’ll buy it you’ll be selling it to them?

Obviously if they don’t bite you just don’t show. No way I’d give her the satisfaction of my free ticket to her boyfriend though.

Absolutely ask for the ticket so ex-friend can't have it.

Also let them know you have someone else interested in the accommodation.

I get that you don't want her or her bf to profit from your ticket but if you don't go, won't they just do that anyway?

So all you can do at this point is see how long you can hang out the 'oh yes, I'll definitely be there' line. Right til they're literally waiting for you on the day, I guess!

Is there an option for you to just sell the ticket to the event without accommodating in that case? So you would get at least something back? You could give her first refusal for her b/f

Def don’t go. 3 & do not let her have ticket for free. Money lost lesson learned. Celebrate being free of her toxicity!

Yes contact who you bought it from so you have your ticket.
I'd definitely see if they want to buy it, I'd be upfront

Ask if her boyfriend wants to buy your ticket? Worth a shot.

I’d do a combination of 2 and 3 - say that you are still keen to go, but ask whether her boyfriend is interested in the event. If she says he is, offer the option of him buying your ticket. That way the option is given but it’s clear you plan to use the ticket if not so she’s not expecting it for free. Whether or not you turn up on the day is another matter.