My partners ex is harrassing us

[Maisydaisy56]

Im with a really amazing loving guy who I'm totally besotted with. I'm separated and he's divorced. The problem is with his ex who says often that she doesn't want him back , hates him etc but obviously doesn't want anyone else to have him. Over recent months she's sent me threatening texts, WhatsApps, Facebook messages and emails. It got so bad I reported it to the police but then I lost courage and told them I can't proceed as I was so scared.

It's all been quiet but now she's started again. She turned up at the house threatening and shouting out across the street that I'm a slag etc etc - it's all caught on my cctv. She's following him and threatening him if he goes near me.

Their son has told her to back off and she admitted to him after visiting my house that she doesn't know why she did it. Totally bonkers!!

Is it best to ignore her? I really don't want to open up the case with the police again. We're not kids - we're both in our 60s and just want a quiet life

I'd think the police is the only option. It's gone beyond the point where you can just ignore, as it is clearly putting you on edge.

Call the police, show them the CCTV, ask if they can go and have a chat with her. By 'chat' I mean a very direct conversation.

If she does it again, press charges.
You don't want the police involved or a court case, you did not ask for this but sadly she did, so you are in it now.

So far she is just learning she can continue without consequence.

If you don't call the police yourself, your neighbours might end up doing it next time she is carrying on outside your house, and wouldn't that be more embarrassing?

You need to go back to the police.

Everyone's telling me exactly the same as my children have just done! It's beginning to look like the only option. Oh for a quiet life!

I would go back to the police. You can't wish her into stopping, you need to take action. She is clearly deranged and you can't reason with deranged people.

Also, take heed of what @BEAM123 said. If your neighbours call the police, that will be even more embarrassing. Put a stop to her antics now.

She sounds unhinged. Police, all the way, non-mol if possible.