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Original poster

To mount the pavement and run over my neighbor

41 replies

WhyCantPeopleBeNice · 01/06/2022 20:33

Ok, so I agree, driving at my neighbor would be bad.
But what is acceptable?

Today someone living in our street mounted the kerb twice and the second time hit and killed my cat.
Speed limit is 30
Our next door neighbor rushed out and the van behind stopped. The car drove on.

We put a Facebook message asking who the van driver was, he came round and identified the driver and explained our cat wasn't hit on the road but on the footpath.
I know where the driver lives. I know the car he drives.
I walked to his house and he isn't in.
Police won't even take a report of dangerous driving without a registration number, despite me giving full witness details and address of the driver. (Witness lives opposite the driver hence being able to clearly identify)

So, what would you do?

Would you camp outside until he returns to get his registration number and suggest he flies everywhere so he doesn't get run over??

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Salma97 · 01/06/2022 20:36

How awful. Definitely get the registration details and go from there.

Beamur · 01/06/2022 20:39

Fucker. Unlikely Police would do much. I would be incandescent if someone killed my cat.

Wheresmywoolyjumpers · 01/06/2022 21:03

Oh god, I would be heartbroken and incandescent too. Yes, I would camp out and get the registration number. So sorry for your loss.

Fluffycloudland77 · 01/06/2022 21:21

I’m sorry you lost your cat too.

Schwarz · 01/06/2022 21:26

Oh I'm so so sorry. I'd be heartbroken if this was my cat - definitely get the registration number and push it as far as you can. That's terrible dangerous driving on their part, and disgusting they didn't even stop.

Spongeboob · 01/06/2022 21:29

I went through this exact situation a few years ago. It was graphic and I've never gotten over the loss and what I saw. I tried to contact the neighbour who did it, to no avail. There wasn't a damn thing I could do about it. I had a tiny baby at the time. The law needs to be changed for cats. It's bloody horrendous. Flowers OP

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WhyCantPeopleBeNice · 01/06/2022 21:33

so I went back to the persons house. No sign of the car, couldn't see into his garage.
Lights were on and I could hear the tv outside.
I knocked multiple times, eventually a very old man with a hearing aid came to the door, he struggled to walk and honestly i'm not sure he had any idea what was happening. I explained, and I shouted because he couldn't hear, not because i was being aggressive.
He genuinely has no idea he did anything, gave me his registration number. I asked for it saying he was reported in an accident and i wanted it for the police so they could sort it out.
I've filled in the online police form and that's it, I wait 14 days and prey he doesn't get behind the wheel and hit a kid next time.
i'm angry.
I 100% believe he did it, but doesn't know he did it. He shouldn't be on the road yet hes an old man who showed no menace and whilst logically I know I should be grateful he didnt hit a person, my cat is my baby and he killed him

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RewildingAmbridge · 01/06/2022 21:36

Have you reported to the DVLA as someone who may not be medically fit to drive? I'm also a cat owner, but it's not about punishment it's that next time it genuinely could be a pedestrian if he was that unaware. We had to report DHs grandad for similar reasons as talking to him and trying to persuade him to give up his car didn't work. He was invited for an assessment and lost his licence on medical ground.

AfterSchoolWorry · 01/06/2022 21:39

Oh God, that's awful.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your darling kitty 💔

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WhyCantPeopleBeNice · 01/06/2022 21:40

I've done the police form, but I'll look at DVLA tomorrow, thank you. I haven't cried like this in a long time and my anger seems to have turned into a headache and tears and utter tiredness

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BreakinbadBreakineven · 01/06/2022 21:41

Really sorry about your cat. There are lots of elderly people out there who shouldn't be driving- one drove into a parking space outside a shop near us, carried on driving up the kerb narrowly missing my partner AND THEN INTO THE PHARMACY WINDOW then got out casual as you like and went to go into the pharmacy. Beggars belief. Flowers for you.

StrongTea · 01/06/2022 21:42

Really sorry.

BreakinbadBreakineven · 01/06/2022 21:50

Paracetamol, cup of tea with lots of sugar and bed. We lost one of ours on the road and it was awful, deepest sympathies.

Trivester · 01/06/2022 21:57

I’m so sorry to hear about your cat. I’d be devastated too.

He is an unsafe driver. You don’t need malice to kill. We had a job on our hands convincing my df to give up driving. Reporting him is the right thing to do.

RollOnWinter · 01/06/2022 21:59

The vile bastard. Yes, get his registration and tell the police and RSPCA. So sorry about your cat.

RollOnWinter · 01/06/2022 22:01

Sorry, hadn't read your last post. From what you've said about the driver, he clearly isn't fit to be driving at all

ivykaty44 · 01/06/2022 22:05

Im sorry about about cat. Its doubtful the police will do anything without video evidence, and even then they often just send out warning letters.

ivykaty44 · 01/06/2022 22:08

AND THEN INTO THE PHARMACY WINDOW then got out casual as you like and went to go into the pharmacy.

there are many old people who can't see properly when driving. They are virtually blind or don't have the correct prescription glasses etc

driving tests should be 5 yearly and theory bi annually and sight tests annually for all drivers - would stop a lot of this nonsense. Drivers should be able to see to drive

Idiotintraining · 01/06/2022 22:25

I am really sorry to hear about your cat.

My driving instructor told me that if a cat came in the road I wasn't to stop I was to keep going even if I hit the cat. Thy horrified me. I am appealed drivers even park on the pavement let alone drive on it

Snowpatrolling · 01/06/2022 22:28

I have accidentally run over a cat, it shot out in front of me and I had no time to react it happened so fast.
I had no clue what it was at first but I knew I had hit something. There’s no way he wouldnt have felt it unless he thought it was the curb?

Beamur · 01/06/2022 22:37

Report to the DVLA..

WhatsHoppening · 01/06/2022 22:37

OP I’m so sorry. Must be horrible especially as it definitely shouldn’t have happened. I’m not sure how the law can change re: cats- we live in a bust city suburb and cats frequently (and sadly) get hit by cars driving perfectly safely but they run straight in front of them. Anything hit off the road should have consequences.

girafferaffle · 01/06/2022 22:40

I'm really sorry about your cat.

I nearly got hit on the pavement when I was a teenager. It was really scary, very close call. A few years later the driver died in an accident (missed a turn and drove off a steep drop). I really don't think she should have been driving.

UrsulaPandress · 01/06/2022 22:41

Tosser. I’d make his life a fucking misery.