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Teenagers next door

108 replies

purplephazersettostun · 01/06/2022 13:20

My neighbour has two teenage children. One sitting A-level and one GCSE's which means they're on study leave apart from exams.

They have a kind of teenage snug at the end of their garden - glorified shed really with lights and speakers etc. This means that from 11am every day they are blasting (bad) dance music till 11pm at night. The night time I can cope with, but I work from home, and the only place I can work is the dining room - which is their side of the house. I am really struggling with working and having meetings with incessant music and screeching of teens. I mentioned it to neighbour who rolled her eyes and said to just ignore it.

I've got 3 months of this ahead of me! I don't have an office I can work from to escape it. And soon I will want the window open too. How can I explain that this is an issue and that EVERY SINGLE DAY and constant music isn't really acceptable?

OP posts:
BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation · 02/06/2022 14:13

GirlInACountrySong · 02/06/2022 14:09

@BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation well it did when we had the equipment installed for a few days for the neighbours noise

Uncarpeted adjoining house, not down the bottom of the garden

They did warn us it had to be a certain amount of decibels within a measured timeframe

What's the criteria now then?

We complained about the neighbours hot tub pump going 24/7. The council investigated and wrote to them warning them it breached the noise rules. He had to turn it off.

Nocutenamesleft · 02/06/2022 14:31

doodleygirl · 01/06/2022 13:46

@HereIAmBrainTheSizeOfAPlanet why such derogatory language, they dont sound scummy, they just sound like teenagers who are totally wrapped up in themselves.

My suggestion would be to go back round to the parents and explain that the constant noise level is too loud and you would rather sort it out between yourselves than involve the council. Hopefully that will make them understand the seriousness. Good luck, noise when trying to work is particularly irritating.

She was talking about the parents I believe. Not the teenagers.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 02/06/2022 14:39

HarrietSchulenberg · 01/06/2022 17:38

Whilst that level of noise isn't acceptable until 11pm, your daytime working arrangements aren't your neighbours' problem.

I wouldn't want that level of noise even if I wasn't working from home,it sounds dire!

Keep a diary, record it and try and speak to them and I absolutely would put in a report if they don't see reason. Aren't other neighbours fed up too?

butterflyflutterby123 · 02/06/2022 14:56

Exams finish by the end of June, hopefully her kids will have plans for the summe? Jobs/holidays/trips with friends ...?

I feel for you OP, what a horrible situation

SparkyBlue · 02/06/2022 15:08

Like a previous poster suggested I'd have another word and be nice and polite but say that you don't want to have to get the council involved and explain again you are working from home. I'd also try the noise cancelling headphones someone suggested. I know it's a pain in the back side but these teens will be moved on soon to work or third level study or whatever and won't be around so much but a big falling out with the neighbours will last years and years and I'd try to avoid that.

Fairisleflora · 02/06/2022 15:09

Music of any description played in a garden that could be overheard in a neighbours garden would not be tolerated in my area. Something I wholeheartedly agree with.

GirlInACountrySong · 02/06/2022 15:19

@Fairisleflora not tolerated? How would you stop it?

EmmaH2022 · 02/06/2022 15:44

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just report to noise control.

MountainClimber22 · 02/06/2022 15:45

I voted YABU as they are just enjoying their home. If you can't WFH comfortably you need to find somewhere you can.

BigSandyBalls2015 · 02/06/2022 15:53

How on earth does you not mowing your lawn affect them?!

BigSandyBalls2015 · 02/06/2022 15:54

@MountainClimber22 are you joking 😳

BigSandyBalls2015 · 02/06/2022 15:55

I would never let me DDs do this. Selfish fuckers.

SirChenjins · 02/06/2022 15:58

MountainClimber22 · 02/06/2022 15:45

I voted YABU as they are just enjoying their home. If you can't WFH comfortably you need to find somewhere you can.

Oh what a wag you are.

No-one has a right to impose this level of noise on others who are going about their lives - wfh, sleeping after shifts, just wanting a bit of peace. Your parents forget to explain that to you as they were dragging you up?

Londonderry34 · 02/06/2022 16:07

Ask her where they are planning to do their resits.

LakieLady · 02/06/2022 16:14

MountainClimber22 · 02/06/2022 15:45

I voted YABU as they are just enjoying their home. If you can't WFH comfortably you need to find somewhere you can.

But they're not "just enjoying their home", they're doing it in such a way that it is preventing their neighbours from enjoying their home. Their rights don't trump their neighbours' rights.

I'd start keeping a noise diary OP, with dates and times that the noise starts/finishes. If you can download a noise monitoring app and measure the volume, even better.

Once you've done that for a few days, report to the council's environmental health department with a list of dates/times/type of noise, and the level if you used an app. They can issue an FPN (although they used to generally issue a warning first) and if it carries on after that, the neighbours could be fined £1,000.

BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation · 02/06/2022 16:19

Download a decibel app and record the decibel levels. Our council have an app you download to record and measure the noise then you send it in as part of the reporting process. You should get on to your council if the neighbours refuse to turn it down.

Nanny0gg · 02/06/2022 16:20

purplephazersettostun · 01/06/2022 13:37

She likes to make herself out to be the "fun mum" for all her kids friends, so they tend to have half a garden full most days. And I do understand that it's nice for them to have this summer times at their age.
Neighbour did suggest I use one of those we-work offices where you can rent a desk for the day, but they're quite expensive compared to what I actually earn so it's just not an affordable solution.

And why the hell should you?

Explain (again) that you have to work. That you have to have meetings and that you don't want to be deafened by their noise. Nor should it cost you money to escape it.
It's not like they're just outside chatting.

If they carry on, I'd be on to the council

If that failed I'd be retaliating

Nanny0gg · 02/06/2022 16:21

MountainClimber22 · 02/06/2022 15:45

I voted YABU as they are just enjoying their home. If you can't WFH comfortably you need to find somewhere you can.

Do you 'enjoy your home' so all your neighbours are disturbed?

TheHaka · 02/06/2022 16:22

GirlInACountrySong · 02/06/2022 13:43

Noise has to be extremely loud to hit the env health screening equipment parameters

Oh no it doesn’t.

Don’t tolerate this any longer OP, it’s not acceptable even for a few hours a day. Environmental Health will sort out these inconsiderate little shits.

TheSpottedZebra · 02/06/2022 16:27

Surely if their music is so loud, it would drown out the sound of the 'mosquito noise', making it pointless?

Fairisleflora · 02/06/2022 16:30

We have a residents association who would be sending a politely worded letter through their door that this sort of thing is unacceptable. The residents association is just a load of oldies with nothing better to do with their time than wade through the intricacies of someone’s planning application but in relation to this sort of thing I approve 100%.

BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation · 02/06/2022 16:31

TheSpottedZebra · 02/06/2022 16:27

Surely if their music is so loud, it would drown out the sound of the 'mosquito noise', making it pointless?

Just turn the volume up.

Thunderpunt · 02/06/2022 16:36

Rosebel · 02/06/2022 14:07

I know you have talked to the neighbour but did you actually speak to the teenagers? They might react the same as their parents but they might surprise you.
Offer them a compromise like playing music after 5 or 6 but not before.

I'm not sure that offering a compromise of after 5pm is any better, there might be neighbours the other side with babies/young children who don't want music disturbing them.
Sorry OP you have to suck it up, it's not long term and as someone else has pointed out, if it's not teenagers, it's young kids shrieking, or people mowing their lawn, strimming their edges at 9am on a Sunday morning.
For absolute silence you will need to move or go work in a shared space business centre....

Nanny0gg · 02/06/2022 16:38

Thunderpunt · 02/06/2022 16:36

I'm not sure that offering a compromise of after 5pm is any better, there might be neighbours the other side with babies/young children who don't want music disturbing them.
Sorry OP you have to suck it up, it's not long term and as someone else has pointed out, if it's not teenagers, it's young kids shrieking, or people mowing their lawn, strimming their edges at 9am on a Sunday morning.
For absolute silence you will need to move or go work in a shared space business centre....

Mowing the lawn is a totally different kind of noise and isn't happening all day.

I don't agree she should suck up inconsiderate selfish behaviour

SirChenjins · 02/06/2022 16:45

Thunderpunt · 02/06/2022 16:36

I'm not sure that offering a compromise of after 5pm is any better, there might be neighbours the other side with babies/young children who don't want music disturbing them.
Sorry OP you have to suck it up, it's not long term and as someone else has pointed out, if it's not teenagers, it's young kids shrieking, or people mowing their lawn, strimming their edges at 9am on a Sunday morning.
For absolute silence you will need to move or go work in a shared space business centre....

Point to where the OP said she wanted absolute silence?